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Coaching is Teaching — CSCAA

As our swimming championship season moves into March, and we overlap with basketball, we know it is the National Championship season for both sports. Hail to thee, March Madness!

One of the things that strikes me as I watch (too much) basketball this month is listening to tv commentators refer to a coach who is talking to a player, usually one who has just come out of the game, as someone who is “always teaching.”  Of course the coach is “always teaching.”  That is what coaching is.  Coaching is Teaching.

In swimming and diving, we have similar “always teaching” moments too, even though we may not always think of them that way.  As our swimmers head to the blocks before a race, don’t they often stop by their coaches for a “word” before the race?  And after the race, don’t the same swimmers usually stop by their coaches for another “word or two?”  Of course they do. Those coaches are “always teaching.”  Probably no coaches are more consistent about “always teaching” than diving coaches.   Every dive, every day is analyzed for what happened and what can be done better next time. Always teaching.  Even when diving coaches can’t talk to their divers, we often see them sending hand signals back and forth: over, short, twisted, etc… Always teaching.

As I think about those “built in” teaching moments in our sport, I think I probably should have made better use of them. I can imaginemyselfnow planning ahead about what to say to each swimmer before each race: something short, simple, positive, direct.  In what sounds it could be a Nike sentence, I would want that pre-race teaching moment to be a “just do this” moment. And then following the race, I can imagine myself now wanting to be disciplined about making sure I followed up on that pre-race instruction, looking wherever I could for a chance to notice even a little bit of improvement.  Psychologist Daniel Pink reminds us to pay attention to little victories and little bits of improvement. Making progress towards a larger goal, he says, is one of the things that keeps us motivated, focused, and working hard every day.

So, Coaches are Teachers; athletes are students – students of the game, to be sure, but also, they are students of much more than the game.  What they learn, in addition to the skills and movements and strategies of their sport, goes far beyond the dry erase board and video world of X’s and O’s.  Students not only learn about their own game with a small “g,” they also, and at the same time, learn about the big “G” Game of Life. No wonder then that they often look to their coaches as teachers, guides, role models, and mentors. 

Dr. Kevin White, Athletics Director and Vice President at Duke University, reminds us that all college athletes, in his words, “double major.”  Their academic major is one major; their athletic major is the other. In addition to this “double major,” college athletes are also young people growing up, entering adulthood, and trying to figure out just who they are, and why they are here, and what they are supposed to do with their lives.  And this doesn’t even begin to count the pressures and expectations associated with living on a college campus, or the cultural complexities of having a social media life, or even the joys and the trials of falling in love, etc., etc., etc.  Did I mention looking for a job, or an internship, or admission into graduate or professional school? All of that is in there too. And when they are swimmers and divers, they do a lot of it on very little sleep.    Whenever I think seriously about it, I wonder how they do it. But they do do it. We all know that.

College athletes are also young people growing up, entering adulthood, and trying to figure out just who they are, why they are here, and what they are supposed to do with their lives.  And when they are swimmers and divers, they do a lot of it on very little sleep.    Whenever I think seriously about it, I wonder how they do it. But they do do it.

Having a coach they can trust helps them to do it. Their coach is often their one constant figure throughout all four of their college years.  Their coach is there every semester, every week, and is often there during summers and vacation periods too. In the course of their four years, they will almost certainly spend more time with their coach than they will with any other teacher on campus, and probably more time than they spend with their parents and families also.

It is inescapable, isn’t it. Coaches are teachers. Coaches teach not only by what they say, but also, and often more powerfully, by what they do.  Coaches are representatives and role models of the adult world. This is not optional.  Being such a role model for college students is a large part of what it means to be a college coach.  What a major, beautiful, and special responsibility it is to be a college coach!    

Coaching, seen in this light, is an extremely high form of teaching.  When we coach, we coach a whole person.  It is the whole person, after all, who stands up to race or to dive. When something is “not right” with this whole person, their performance shows it. We’ve all seen it; we all know it.  All of life is relevant to the students we coach; therefore, all of life is relevant to our coaching. They need our respect, and our trust, and our good example. In our sport, they also need to know how to race, and train, and start, and turn, and improve their technique. They need to be resilient; they need to be good teammates; they need to develop their time management skills, learn to listen and communicate, and to care about and help people who need help.  All of these things we teach and model when we coach.  And we do them because we care about and love the students who are on our teams.   Thank you, Coaches, for what you do for our students.

Coaching is Caring; Coaching is Teaching.

90,000 20 qualities of a coach who has become a mentor

One of the possible ways to develop a career in coaching may be the profession of a mentor in coaching. Its essence lies in the ability of the mentor (mentor) to analyze the sessions of the mentee (student) based on the competencies of the ICF coach. The coach receives an additional profession, the opportunity to expand the client base through mentoring services and, at the same time, experiences a strong growth of his own coaching competencies. How this happens:

mastering the competencies of the mentor, which differ from the competencies of the coach;

acquaintance with markers of competence manifestation;

practice of analysis of sessions of mentee allows you to look at your practice in a different way.

In order to understand what kind of coach you will become, having mastered the additional specialization – mentoring in coaching, we invite you to get acquainted with 20 personality traits of a professional coach-mentor.

1. Clients pay for the coach’s time and experience, while the coach is internally free from client stories.

2. The coach is passionate about the practice of coaching and provides clients with the space to create the life they enjoy.

3. The coach sees clients as the experts of his life – natural, creative, resourceful and holistic.

4. The coach perceives change as both complex and exciting process. He helps clients overcome obstacles and gain access to the joy and excitement of life!

5. The coach encourages, supports and believes in his clients, even (especially) when they do not believe in themselves.

6. The coach realizes that he has shortcomings, therefore, welcomes feedback from clients.

7. The coach acts from the position: the Coach-Client relationship is a relationship of mutual respect.The coach accepts his clients as they are and does not seek to remake them.

8. The coach helps clients learn to trust and be friends with themselves, get rid of negative baggage.

9. Confidentiality is key to a coach’s practice. His clients share thoughts, fears, feelings, failures and secrets.

10. The coach thinks about possibilities, not about probabilities. The coach helps clients find innovative solutions, try something new, take risks, get out of their comfort zone and create!

11.The coach is not intimidated by internal criticism of clients. The coach sees clients as strong, kind, courageous, inspiring, unique people.

12. Feelings, beliefs, thoughts and needs are what drives the life of a coach. The coach loves to listen and study requests with clients!

13. The coach holds clients accountable for what they say they are going to do.

14. Clients lead full lives, and the coach helps them to prioritize so that they do not put other people or less important tasks ahead of themselves.

15. The coach supports and challenges clients to see themselves and the world in a positive light.

16. Coaches can celebrate victories and help clients think, pause, and take action to celebrate and celebrate successes.

17. The goal of a coach is to help clients focus on what they love, value and want from life.

18. The coach never stops learning. Growing up in knowledge, experience and self-awareness, he knows how to clearly separate professional roles.

19. The coach works to see himself and the world in a positive light, while taking into account the reality and problems of life.

20. A coach falls in love with his job even more when he is professionally improving himself!

90,000 Parenting session based on the “Sowing Character” coaching approach – Coaching in Education

1.

Greetings. Acquaintance.

Hello! I ask everyone to sit down, make yourself comfortable. Begin!

I invite everyone to get acquainted.To do this, now, we will pass a ball (soft toy) to each other. Your task: to introduce yourself, say whose parents you are and finish the next sentence by naming a positive trait of the child: “My child is very (very) … (kind, cheerful, sympathetic, etc.).

/ Each time the ball goes to a new competitor until everyone gets the ball.

Educator starts first /.

Familiarization of parents with the rules of working in a group.Obtaining their verbal consent to continue.

“ Rules for working in a group”

– confidential communication style;

– communication according to the principle “Here and now”;

– statement rules;

– sincerity in communication;

– confidentiality;

– active participation;

– respect for the speaker.

2. Identify the problem. Challenge (motivation for action).

The educator offers the participants to view film fragment. “Office romance” / a scene in which Novoseltsev parries the character traits called by her boss, changing them to the opposite /.

Educator: As you all already understood, today we will communicate on the formation (upbringing) of the character of our children.

The topic of the lesson is announced.

Questions to parents:

– How would you rate your child’s character quality currently on a scale of 1 to 10?

– What does 10 mean to you in relation to the character of the child?

– What’s stopping the situation from changing?

/ Parent Query Problem Detection /.

Caregiver: Identifying positive and negative character traits can help, for example:

– when choosing a profession;

– when applying for a job;

– upon appointment:

– when choosing a life partner (defining criteria that are valuable to a person).

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Working with organizations »Coaching

The foundation of the coaching process is the client’s trust in his coach, therefore, the most important, in our opinion, is the coach’s ability to build relationships in which the client can honestly and openly explore his opportunities and limitations, as well as withstand the stress of the coaching session. Also, the coach must possess special professional skills aimed at increasing the awareness of the client’s actions and his motivation in the formulation and achievement of goals.Since the Harmony Institute has been working in the field of consulting since 1988, and is also well known as a training center for consulting – since 1995 we have been running programs for training consultants, then among our specialists there are real masters in the field of consulting, including a coach -consulting.

We offer two forms of work: individual and group coaching.

Coaching for a leader

Personal coaching is a joint work of a coach and a client, aimed at the fastest and most effective achievement by the client of his goals.This work involves defining the client’s objectives and goals, researching the current situation, available resources and limitations on the path to the result, developing and analyzing opportunities to overcome obstacles, as well as the formation of ways and means of achieving goals. Such work helps to realize the potential inherent in each individual. No other teaching method takes into account a person’s personal history to build on their best qualities. With coaching, new ideas take on a personal character, and this produces a consistently positive, sustainable outcome.

• As a result of working with a coach, the client has a clear vision of the situation and prospects, correctly set priorities, a more objective assessment of risks and impacts, a better understanding of his own resources and capabilities, but most importantly, the client learns to set and achieve his goals.

• Coaching does not provide “valuable advice” but provides the client with real methods and skills. Their use will allow in a specific situation to independently find the necessary, working solutions that are optimal for a person and a company.This technology reliably adapts the organization and personality to the highly competitive market.

• The frequency and duration of the coach’s work is determined by the client’s goals:
  – if the goal is “situational”, i.e. is associated with the resolution of a difficult situation, work or life, then this requires more dense work – several sessions in a short time (for example, two coaching sessions daily for a week),
  – if the goal is “strategic”, i.e. is not connected with the solution of any specific problem, but concerns the building of more distant prospects, then meetings can be periodic, but less frequent, for example, at the beginning of work – every week, and then – once a month or less often.

Individual coaching may be helpful:

• managers of different levels who need to improve the ability to build goals and objectives of their activities, as well as plan ways to achieve them

• people whose activities are related to public speaking, self-presentation, the ability to negotiate, be a convincing interlocutor, withstand a high level of psychological stress and withstand stress

Group or team coaching

A type of counseling aimed at optimizing the interaction of people in professional relationships.Determination of actual goals, objectives and desired results from the coach’s intervention is a structural part of the coaching process, on the basis of which the current situation, available resources and limitations are studied, the development and analysis of opportunities to overcome existing difficulties, the formation of ways and ways to achieve the goals.

One example of a challenge a coach can help with is building an effective management team.Effective communication within the team is facilitated by well-defined goals, clearly articulated roles and responsibilities, and well-structured tasks. Clarity of purpose and structure also reduces the likelihood of conflict and creates a conducive environment for creating a shared vision of how the team operates and the environment in which the team operates, which facilitates communication between team members. In addition, the higher the dependence of team members on each other, the greater the need for frequent contacts within the team.Teams need both business communication (information and guidance on tasks and procedures) and personal communication (to develop a unified conceptual framework, build trust, and maintain social cohesion).

Group coaching is conducted in sessions of at least 4 hours. The total duration is determined by the coaching tasks and can be several training days (8 academic hours).

Coaching

You can search for answers all your life, but you never ask the right question.Look for a game worth playing. If it seems to you that life does not offer you such a game, invent it, invent it. Robert De Ropp.

Coaching is unleashing a person’s potential in order to maximize his effectiveness.

When I was studying coaching, I realized that about a third of client requests are not psychotherapeutic at all and coaching is much more effective in solving them. It often happens that after successful psychotherapeutic work, a person begins to think about the future and asks for the continuation of psychological sessions.But with the future, as practice has shown, it is better to work with coaching strategies.

People learn to plan their future and solve pressing problems themselves, while the psychologist does not become the client’s “back mind”, which one can constantly hope and look back on. Almost all coaching is based on the concept of Ericksonian therapy and NLP techniques. But, a significant difference is that in the coaching system there is no rigid conduct, if pressure from the coach is allowed, then only in isolation on the activation of the resource forces and the creative potential of the client.The coach is neutral and does not bring anything of his own or someone else’s for the client, he just correctly and clearly puts the necessary questions, which is the key to success.

Coaching is often referred to as a type of counseling. This is not entirely true. The coach does not advise or advise. On the contrary, he asks questions. This is a technique that allows the client to clearly define their goals and objectives, determine what is required to achieve them and, as a result, get excellent results in the shortest possible time.

It would not be entirely correct to call coaching a type of assistance. Rather, it is helping the client achieve his goals. At the same time, coaching does not enter the field of psychotherapy. But, quite often, in the process of coaching, one has to retreat into the zone of psychological counseling, since it is sometimes impossible to move forward due to unresolved old problems of a psychological nature that have been discovered.

My psychological education and experience make it easy to combine coaching and psychotherapeutic work.Coaching can uncover repressed desires and emotions, but it is not his job to solve them. Having worked out the psychological problems, you can return to the coaching work and successfully complete it, having achieved the desired results.

Coaching is professional assistance to a person in defining and achieving his personal goals in business and in life.

The International Coaching Federation (ICF) defines the coaching process as follows:

“Coaching is an ongoing collaboration that helps clients achieve real results in their personal and professional lives.Through the coaching process, clients deepen their knowledge, increase their efficiency and improve their quality of life.

At each meeting, the client chooses the subject of the conversation, the coach listens and contributes in the form of clarifying remarks, effective questions, providing feedback, etc. This interaction clarifies the situation and encourages the client to act. Coaching accelerates the client’s self-improvement process by opening up more choices. Coaching focuses on where the client wants to be, where he is at the moment and what he is willing to do to get where he wants to be tomorrow. “

Coaching is a kind of mirror for the mind. Just as with the help of a mirror we can put our appearance in order, so with the help of coaching we can put in order what is in our mind, put everything “on the shelves”, find something new that will allow us to look at the situation differently, find the most effective solution.

There are many types of coaching, here are the main ones:

Life coaching is one of the most “basic” types of coaching and nuances can arise only depending on the motivation of the client himself.If a coach-trainer works with a client who, due to, for example, difficult life circumstances, is not at the peak of his abilities and “energy”, then he will need to feel the person so that he does not “close”, instill in him self-confidence and raise a low level of self-esteem, unleash its potential and find new opportunities for successful development.

Career coaching is a technology for self-planning of future careers and the realization of a person’s career potential.Such coaching helps to identify the full range of personal resources to achieve the set career goals and plans.

Business coaching – this type of coaching is aimed at conducting coaching in a company for employees of different levels. The main goal is to help the development of the employee as an independent person, as well as a member of a group / organization, in order to achieve high business results and increase personal efficiency.

Personal Effectiveness Coaching has many overlaps with other coaching options.Here we are dealing with a person’s desire to increase professional or other efficiency, improve time management, sports performance, balance different directions of life for the maximum development of the desired areas.

Family Coaching is a systematic work both with the values ​​of an individual family member and with the values ​​of the whole family as a whole. A family coach helps to solve problems that arise in the family circle – with a spouse, with children, brothers or sisters, grandparents, parents, relatives.The result of working with a family coach involves improving relationships, both with a loved one and within the family as a whole.

Personal coaching is a one-on-one work taking into account your individual characteristics, abilities, personal experience, inclinations, strengths and weaknesses, your state of affairs at the current time.

Benefits from coaching

The goals that a person sets for himself are achievable. Since in this case there is an internal motivation to achieve and start activities.The goals set for a person by others can come into conflict with inner values ​​and aspirations, which leads to the appearance of an internal subconscious unwillingness to act. This, in turn, lowers work efficiency.

In the process of coaching, a person sets goals and chooses ways to achieve them himself. This is the absolute plus. The goal, person and all resources are balanced and do not conflict. There are no internal obstacles to the implementation of the plan.

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Coaching is based on the methods used by psychologists in crisis situations. It allows you to quickly relieve panic, anxiety, assess the situation and develop an effective plan for the near future.

The philosophy of coaching is based on the fact that Man is naturally infinitely talented and has enormous potential that he does not fully realize. There are answers to all questions in his head.

Coaching is used in those cases when you have a certain goal (in the future) that you want to achieve, but do not yet know how. In this case, it is coaching that will be the most effective and fastest method to get you the desired result.

The solution to a specific problem. Coaching in this area helps to clarify the problem, find the most effective ways to solve it, allows you to correctly prioritize and find all the necessary resources.This is especially true for business coaching, when you need to find the optimal solution to a specific business problem.

Improving personal efficiency. Here, coaching is primarily aimed at removing behavioral and mental limitations that interfere with achieving success in life or in any particular business. In the process of coaching, a person significantly expands the boundaries of what is possible for himself, develops a new model of behavior and communication, which is most consistent with his goals.In addition, coaching allows you to discover hidden resources and make full use of them.

Achieve vital balance. A lot of people do not know what exactly they really want, do not realize what is really important to them and what is not. This causes an imbalance in a person’s life, which in turn leads to other undesirable consequences. Coaching allows you to identify true life goals, clearly prioritize, balance life. Moreover, this can apply to both life as a whole, and its individual aspects, for example, career, business, and so on.

Situations of choice and decision making. Habitual thinking often does not allow you to go beyond the typical ideas about the current situation. Coaching facilitates this outcome. The coach helps to comprehensively and carefully consider all possible options for action, their possible consequences and choose the option that best suits the achievement of the goal and existing opportunities.

Search for a new algorithm for solving problems. In the process of coaching, the client, in addition to solving his main task, also receives training.As a rule, he learns for himself a new, much more positive outlook on life, on others, on the situation. He learns a new algorithm for solving problems that arise in his life, which he will now approach not as problems, but as problems that have a very specific solution. This approach in itself significantly increases the efficiency of a person in any field of activity. This ensures long-term sustained benefits from working with a coach.

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Why do you need business coaching ?: Damian Sinaisky’s blog

Opinion about business coaching often comes down to the fact that such an activity is not the most useful. However, this is the reasoning of people who do not know the meaning of this phrase. The main purpose of business coaching is to convey to an entrepreneur the opportunity to correctly formulate career goals, identify possible prospects for the development of his business, and inspire new achievements.

What is business coaching?

Business coaching is about rebooting a person’s personal and professional goals. It is worth contacting a business coach in the presence of the following circumstances:

• If there is a failure of life goals.
• Lack of personal strategy and understanding of purpose.
• Lost interest not only in the performance of their work duties, but also in communication with other people.
• Fears and phobias are present.

The specialist uses a variety of techniques to improve personal efficiency, as well as to build relationships not only between a coach and an entrepreneur, but also to increase the efficiency of work in a team.

The work of a business coach is aimed at ensuring that an entrepreneur can rethink his mission, as well as set realistic goals in business and build a detailed plan to achieve them.

Types of business coaching

Business coaching can be divided into two areas: corporate and for the leader.

Coaching of a corporate nature implies the work of an expert not only with a manager and management team, but also with line personnel. It is usually called team or group.

Group coaching is challenged by the need to set a clear goal. It is this goal that contributes to the development of the business and determines the degree of understanding and focus in achieving these tasks for each employee, including the head of the structural unit.Corporate coaching activities are aimed at developing a clear plan for achieving goals, as well as identifying tactics and strategies for business development. At the same time, an important role is played by building a competent system, according to which there will be a relationship between managers and subordinates, thinking over motivations and stimulating line workers. Coaching for executives is convenient because it allows you to:

• Assist in starting a new business;
• Reorganize the business or plan the development of a new direction;
• Achieve specific target results in the existing business;
• Select business partners;
• Choose an optimal advertising and marketing strategy;
• Develop a line personnel management system, etc.d.

Business coaching is carried out both in all of the above areas and in a specific one. Its effectiveness will depend on the characteristics of each business process, as well as on the leader’s ability to build an effective system for solving problems in the company.

Article “A coach-psychologist as a kind helper and loyal friend” Ӏ Author: Igor Vagin

In the traditional sense, coaching is a comprehensive psychological counseling program.However, a coach-psychologist has to solve issues of a broader subject than purely medical problems such as eliminating the consequences of stress, treating various phobias, and social orientation of a person. Personality-oriented coaching is aimed at the all-round development of the individual. In this case, the main task of the psychologist (coach) is to reveal the abilities, talents, and predispositions of a person to one or another type of occupation.

Whoever says anything, but acting alone is much more difficult than when you have an ally and like-minded person.Even when it comes to self-development and improvement of character traits. You can see your mistakes and wrong actions through analysis, detaching yourself from what is happening. The coach-psychologist looks at the actions of the ward as if from the outside, without being emotionally involved in the situation. Thanks to this, as well as the methods and techniques of influencing the patient that have been developed over the years of practice (in this sense, the psychologist and the coach are almost related concepts), he manages to change some of the student’s internal attitudes, and, ideally, completely his worldview, forcing him to look at the circumstances in a fundamentally different way. Psychologist-coach advises on almost all issues related to personality and its manifestations in every typical life situation.

Today, professional psychologists and coaches use a variety of techniques and methods developed by them personally or based on proven psychotherapy programs. To a certain extent, all coach psychologists use the best practices of gestalt psychology, quantum and transpersonal psychology, neuro-linguistic programming, and repathering.The use of different approaches in working with a client gives a higher percentage of response to the influence of a psychologist. The coach seeks not so much to demonstrate his comprehensive knowledge, but to find a more adequate and appropriate approach to the problem, while the client should not experience unnecessary discomfort during the coaching sessions. The mastery of the mentor also lies in the correctly selected “keys” to the personality, in the correct finding of pain points that cause psychological or mental dissonance.

As practice shows, clients rarely come with “ready-made” problems – sometimes a coach-psychologist has to explain for a long time and push a person to realize the true reasons for his failure and indecision.A good mentor, worried not only about his reputation, but also about the success of the ward, makes every effort to establish contact and gain the client’s full, unconditional trust. Then communication is easy and productive, and the person who seeks help finds an ally and a faithful friend in the person of the coach-psychologist.

Igor Vagin is a well-known Russian business coach and coach with a higher medical education, a PhD in medical sciences, several official titles in the field of medicine and business education.This is one of the recognized experts, whose opinion is considered by authoritative people, organizations, communities. In addition to conducting multi-topic trainings and seminars, Igor Olegovich provides consulting services, qualified psychotherapeutic assistance, and coaches with clients in an individual way for each mode. For more than 40 years of his career, Igor Vagin has worked with many well-known public figures, large companies and corporations resort to his services. When contacting Igor Vagin’s training company, you will be offered the most convenient option for working with a psychologist, business consultant, and personal mentor.

Why Coaching

Choosing a coach to develop your own productivity is an important decision. In the first place, you shouldn’t choose a coach if you don’t like his lifestyle. You cannot be moved by a person who has not inspired you with his achievements and performance. Study the biography of this person, look at reviews and recommendations on the Internet.

Also, your choice of a personal trainer (coach) should be based on the coincidence of values ​​with the person who will accompany you.

Nikolay Smirnov in work and in life will apply Milton Erickson’s principles, which largely determine the values ​​and style of his work. Milton Erickson’s principles are part of the “gold standard” of coaching endorsed by the ICF International Coach Federation.

Milton Erickson’s Five Principles

Everything is very good with everyone

Everything that surrounds you and your loved ones is good. Every phenomenon is normal and everything is fine with every person.

We are very accustomed to looking for flaws in our environment and in the people around us. And the person who seeks always finds. Why find something that doesn’t lead to performance?
Having discovered a bad character in your interlocutor, you begin to think about it, and act in accordance with your opinion. As a result, you are encouraging the other person to have a bad character. What for?
All is well with everyone

Every person has all the resources he needs
Every person comes into the world with all the resources he needs to be happy.However, society dictates values ​​to us that do not bring us joy and satisfaction.

An example of public recognition: “You must earn a lot and be successful.” Not all people really want to be successful with other values, like family or love. What to strive for where it is not comfortable?

Find out your core value and immediately become clear about the necessary resources and possible ways to achieve it. Choose your Path and resources will come.

A person always makes the best choice possible at the moment
We are faced with a situation of choice every day! Everyone has their own completely unique experience on the basis of which we make our choice.Remember, evaluating situations before making a choice, we see “hypothetical” possibilities that did not happen, and they seem more interesting to us.

This is not true! If the choice is made, then this is the best possible option, since all other choices have not happened. We do not know what would have happened in case of alternative elections, this is fiction. Why worry about the illusion of our mind? The choice is made and this is the best possible option, because it is!

Every action is based on a positive intention
What is good and what is bad? The question of the morality of each society, the question of the eternal dispute between religions and states.Despite the severity of the consequences of our actions, deep down there is a reason why we do our job.