Pop Pulls the Plug On ‘Florida Girls’, ‘Best Intentions’ & ‘Flack’, Raising Questions About Net’s Scripted Future – Deadline
“Florida Girls is another reason to find the Pop network,” is how The New York Times headlined its glowing review of the new Pop series last July. That reason is no longer there.
In a week when Pop was hit by major layoffs, the ViacomCBS network also saw its original scripted slate gutted, with three of its five series abruptly canceled, Florida Girls, Flack and Best Intentions. All had previously ordered new seasons well in the works.
Florida Girls, from Lionsgate, 3 Arts Entertainment and Jax Media, has already started production on its second season. Best Intentions, from A+E Studios, is two weeks away from start of production on its first season. The Anna Paquin-starring British import Flack saw its plug pulled 10 days before the announced March 13 premiere of Season 2, featuring new cast members Sam Neill and Daniel Dae Kim.
‘One Day At a Time’ Canceled By Pop, Will Be Shopped By Sony Pictures TV
With Pop flagship Schitt’s Creek nearing its series finale, that leaves only one original scripted series on the network, Season 4 of One Day at a Time, which Pop rescued after its cancellation by Netflix. There had been chatter that the praised reimagining of Norman Lear’s classic may move to new Pop sibling TV Land, but the multi-camera comedy will stay put on Pop for the upcoming season, which premieres March 24. (I hear a simulcast on TV Land is still a possibility.)
Pop’s sweeping downsizing in personnel and programming amidst ViacomCBS-wide post-merger cost-cutting raises questions about the network’s future within the new ViacomCBS ecosystem. Last month, Pop, the lone basic cable network owned by CBS Corp. pre-merger, was folded into the ViacomCBS Entertainment & Youth Brands Group, run by Chris McCarthy.
Pop TV panel, TCA Winter Press Tour, 30 Jan 2019
Original scripted programming is an increasingly challenging proposition for ad-supported cable networks amid declining linear ratings, with most networks paring down their scripted portfolios. While sources close to Pop indicate that the network intends to stay in the original scripted business with shows built around ViacomCBS-owned IP, there is speculation that Pop may follow a slew of other basic cable networks that have pulled out of the arena. That includes other nets from the ViacomCBS Entertainment & Youth Brands group, including MTV, Vh2 and CMT. TV Land is down to one original scripted series, veteran Younger.
In a memo addressing the mass layoffs at Pop last Friday, Pop President Brad Schwartz noted that “I’ll continue to run Pop and work alongside Chris as part of the Entertainment & Youth senior leadership team across the brands.” That is encouraging news since he has been the architect — and champion — of Pop’s foray into scripted programming.
The sudden demise of Florida Girls, Flack and Best Intentions, first reported by Variety, so late in the game is creating a logistical nightmare for their studios and distributors as they scramble to find new homes for their shows. For now, Florida Girls, which has recently started production, is continuing filming Season 2, I hear.
Meanwhile, ViacomCBS Entertainment & Youth Brands group is pulling its resources for the Schitt’s Creek sendoff. The April 7 series finale will be simulcast on Pop, Comedy Central and Logo.
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Baby girl, you ARE the party!
Our daughter, Hendrix has always been the life of the party so naturally a dance theme birthday was the perfect way to celebrate her, and she was all for it! Plus, there’s nothing like getting all dolled up, blaring music, and dancing your butt off, am I right?
I’m not sure what you might expect at a 3-year old’s dance party, but I think it had to include tons of frills, endless sweets, and a tremendous amount of bling. Hands down, the disco ball had to have been the most widely used décor item of 2020, needless to say, it was the perfect accessory to create all the magic and bling.
One of my biggest tips when planning party is to create several zones. One way to tie décor together from each zone is by using various hues of your color palette. Danielle, owner of The Stylish Detail, created this gorgeous custom fringe backdrop for the dance floor area by using desaturated colors that tied in with the florals and the wooden divider.
Yup, that is the face I made too. I know baby girl, it’s true, we made the divider wall from scratch. It actually wasn’t that hard to make (says the one who designed it and wasn’t really the one who “made” it). I did paint it though (that counts, right? LOL) This simple DIY divider will forever be the best idea. It blocked and hid our sliding glass doors. I plan to use it time and time again to hide things I don’t want to visually see and add texture and color. I need to paint the blush panel out now for my son’s first birthday in a few weeks! I have a DIY Backdrop highlight reel on my Instagram about how we made these!
Setting the table and creating the backdrop in that zone was an event in itself! It was an incredibly windy day… like 10-20 mph gusts crazy…all day! Mama was slightly freaking out (aka a lot)! One would never know from these photos though! My hubby created a PVC miracle and mounted it to our hurricane shutter pegs! Yes, you heard that correct. I had visions of hanging disco balls and handmade pompoms from “something”. After many hours of brainstorming together he made it happen!
Modern Birch Co. nailed it with this custom acrylic name for the backdrop wall. Scroll to see the custom drink stirrers she made us also!
Table setting is all about layering and creating lots of texture, levels and movement. So many details of a tablescape get overlooked so here are some amazing angles and close-ups!
The DIY Candle block centerpiece was probably one of the most talked about and asked about item of the party! I saw this idea on Instagram and knew my hubby could make it for me for just a few bucks, and he sure did! Check out the IG Highlight Reel about the Party Deets where I cover all the details of how we made it.
There are those Modern Birch Co. drink stir sticks! Pro tip: Mix real tableware with paper goods and use a cute accessory like a mini disco ball to hold down paper cups (especially on windy days)!
My closest girlfriend Shauna of @stayinghomesawyer made these adorable music note cut-out placemats for me with her cricut! If you remember, she made me some of the same ones with lemons for our Blogger Summer Soiree.
That sign though!! Floral Dust knew exactly what I wanted when I described my vision to her! This 18″ diameter custom acrylic sign with hand painted background and gold leaf was the perfect showstopper! She also created our gorgeous cake topper.
When we do sweets, we go big or go home! Our local bakery, Two Fat Cookies, always knocks my vision out of the park! This custom cake was the sweetest part of Hendrix’s day!
At every great party, there is a V.I.B (very important babe) lounge, right? We took our little outdoor seating area and dolled it up with some cute pillows, a cozy blanket & some florals, of course! (PS. , these décor & home accessories were all things we previously had – that is the best and easiest way to decorate a party and add tons of texture & color – shop your own home…bring the indoors out!)
Needless to say we are all looking around dumbfounded how we already have a sweet 3 year old (Ummmm, actually 3-1/2 year old now due to how slow I was to get this blog out)! Where did that year go!?
Fl- baby names and what they mean, with 15 results. Usage of these girl names was at its apex during 1890-1899 (USAGE OF 1.9%) and is now much reduced, with names such as Florida becoming somewhat dated. Flanagan (TOP 1%) and Flink (13%) are popular Fl- last names. Here is the list of Fl- names for boys.
Flaminia – Flower
Flana, var. Flannery, Flannerey, Flanna, Flanagh
Flavia, var. Flavyere, Flaviere, Flavie
Fleur1, var. Florine1▼, Fleurine, Fleurette
Flora1▼, var. Flory, Florry1, Florrie1, Florita, Floris1, Florise, Florine2▼, Florinda1, Florie1, Floriana1, Florida1▼, Floria1, Flori1, Floretta, Florenzia1, Floressa, Florenza1, Florentina1, Florentia1, Florella, Florelle, Flore1, Floralia, Flor1▼, Fleur2, Flo1
Florence▼, var. Flossy, Flossie1▼, Flossey, Floss, Florry2, Florynce, Florrie2, Florrance, Floris2, Florinda2, Florine3▼, Florincia, Florina, Florie2, Floriane, Floriana2, Floria2, Flori2, Florenzia2, Florentyna, Florenza2, Florentina2, Florentia2, Florencita, Florenca, Florencia, Flore2, Florance, Flora2▼, Floellen, Flor2▼, Flo2
Summary Index of names [and variants] for Fl- names for girls.
1. Flaminia – Flower
Girl, 13, sues Florida over transgender school athletes ban
TALLAHASSEE, Fla. (AP) — A 13-year-old transgender girl sued Republican Florida Gov. Ron DeSantis on Wednesday over a new law that will prevent her from playing girls sports at public schools, arguing that the ban is discriminatory and will deprive her of opportunities.
The Broward County girl, Daisy, has played on girls soccer teams since she was 7, but will no longer be able to do so on school teams under the law that takes effect Thursday.
Participating in sports has given her leadership skills and provided her a social network and support system, according to the lawsuit filed on her behalf by the Human Rights Campaign in a federal court in Fort Lauderdale. The lawsuit only identifies her as “D. N.” to protect her privacy. The group said her name is Daisy. She also planned to try out for a high school volleyball team.
“Depriving her of these opportunities will have a long-term impact on her future. It also will create a sense of shame and diminish her positive sense of self, which can have lifelong consequences,” the suit says. The new law “also sends a message to (Daisy’s) current and future teammates that there is something wrong with her.”
DeSantis signed the bill on June 1, the first day of Pride Month. The bill requires anyone participating in girls athletics to have an original birth certificate that states they are female.
“Ron DeSantis made a conscious choice to sign an anti-LGBTQ bill on the very first day that we are celebrating Pride,” said Alphonso David, president of the Human Rights Campaign. “DeSantis decided to take that day to attack the community. It was not lost on us that he did that as political theater, but this bill that he signed has real-world negative implications for transgender people in Florida. ”
DeSantis’s office didn’t immediately respond to a request for comment.
When he signed the “Fairness in Women’s Sports Act” at Christian school surrounded by student athletes, DeSantis was asked why he was doing so on the first day of Pride Month.
“It’s not a message to anything other than saying we’re going to protect fairness in women’s sports. We believe that it’s important to have integrity in the competition and we think it’s important that they can compete in a level playing field,” DeSantis replied.
Daisy began taking hormone blockers to stop testosterone when she was 11 and began receiving estrogen this year, according to the lawsuit. It says because of the treatments, she has no competitive advantage because of her sex assigned at birth.
“If (Daisy) does not have the option to play girls’ sports in high school and college, she will not be able to play sports at all and will lose the benefits of being part of the team network that has supported her emotionally and psychologically,” the lawsuit said. “She may be isolated and face emotional and mental confusion and emotional distress during this critical period of her social and psychological development.”
Matt Gaetz Under Investigation Over Possible Sex Trafficking
Representative Matt Gaetz, Republican of Florida and a close ally of former President Donald J. Trump, is being investigated by the Justice Department over whether he had a sexual relationship with a 17-year-old and paid for her to travel with him, according to three people briefed on the matter.
Investigators are examining whether Mr. Gaetz violated federal sex trafficking laws, the people said. A variety of federal statutes make it illegal to induce someone under 18 to travel over state lines to engage in sex in exchange for money or something of value. The Justice Department regularly prosecutes such cases, and offenders often receive severe sentences.
It was not clear how Mr. Gaetz met the girl, believed to be 17 at the time of encounters about two years ago that investigators are scrutinizing, according to two of the people.
The investigation was opened in the final months of the Trump administration under Attorney General William P. Barr, the two people said. Given Mr. Gaetz’s national profile, senior Justice Department officials in Washington — including some appointed by Mr. Trump — were notified of the investigation, the people said.
[Read more on what we know about the investigation of Matt Gaetz.]
The three people said that the examination of Mr. Gaetz, 38, is part of a broader investigation into a political ally of his, a local official in Florida named Joel Greenberg, who was indicted last summer on an array of charges, including sex trafficking of a child and financially supporting people in exchange for sex, at least one of whom was an underage girl.
Mr. Greenberg, who has since resigned his post as tax collector in Seminole County, north of Orlando, visited the White House with Mr. Gaetz in 2019, according to a photograph that Mr. Greenberg posted on Twitter.
No charges have been brought against Mr. Gaetz, and the extent of his criminal exposure is unclear.
Mr. Gaetz said in an interview that his lawyers had been in touch with the Justice Department and that they were told he was the subject, not the target, of an investigation. “I only know that it has to do with women,” Mr. Gaetz said. “I have a suspicion that someone is trying to recategorize my generosity to ex-girlfriends as something more untoward.”
Mr. Gaetz called the investigation part of an elaborate scheme involving “false sex allegations” to extort him and his family for $25 million that began this month. He said he and his father, Don Gaetz, had been cooperating with the F.B.I. and “wearing a wire” after they were approached by people saying they could make the investigation “go away.” Mr. Gaetz claimed the disclosure of the sex trafficking inquiry was intended to thwart an investigation into the extortion plot.
In a second interview later Tuesday, the congressman said he had no plans to resign his House seat and denied that he had romantic relationships with minors. “It is verifiably false that I have traveled with a 17-year-old woman,” he said.
Representatives for the Justice Department and the F.B.I. declined to comment, as did a spokeswoman for the U.S. attorney’s office in Central Florida.
Mr. Greenberg pleaded not guilty last year and was sent to jail this month for violating the terms of his bail. He is scheduled to go on trial in June in Orlando.
A frequent presence on Fox News and other conservative media, Mr. Gaetz has recently mused with confidants about quitting elected politics and taking a full-time job with the conservative television channel Newsmax or another network, according to a person familiar with the conversations. Axios first reported on Tuesday that Mr. Gaetz was considering leaving Congress.
Mr. Greenberg maintained ties to controversial figures who have supported Mr. Trump, an examination of court records, social media posts and far-right websites showed. A website run by a member of the far-right group the Proud Boys and a network of fake social media accounts linked to Mr. Trump’s longtime political adviser Roger J. Stone Jr. have promoted false accusations about Mr. Greenberg’s rivals similar to rumors that prosecutors accused Mr. Greenberg of secretly trying to spread.
It was not clear how Mr. Greenberg knew either Mr. Gaetz or Mr. Stone. He posted a selfie with both in 2017, tweeting, “Great catching up.” The following year, Mr. Gaetz expressed support for Mr. Greenberg’s successful bid for local office, predicting he would someday make a great member of Congress.
On Capitol Hill, Mr. Gaetz has embraced the role of villain to the left as much as he has served as one of Mr. Trump’s staunchest defenders and enablers, often with theatrical flair. He wore a gas mask on the House floor last year in the early days of the pandemic, insisting he was demonstrating concern for public safety amid accusations he was mocking the seriousness of the spread of the coronavirus.
Mr. Gaetz was first elected to Congress in 2016. As a member of the Florida State Legislature and the scion of a Republican political family, he had initially backed former Gov. Jeb Bush of Florida in the Republican presidential primary that year before hitching his political fortunes to Mr. Trump.
It paid off. He won a seat in Congress representing part of the Florida Panhandle, and as one of Mr. Trump’s most flamboyant supporters on Capitol Hill and on cable television, his profile skyrocketed.
Mr. Gaetz invited a right-wing Holocaust denier to the State of the Union address in 2018, and attended an event last year where he said the Proud Boys had provided security, though he has distanced himself from the group on his podcast. When Democrats moved in 2019 to impeach Mr. Trump for the first time, Mr. Gaetz and a phalanx of Republicans following him barged past Capitol Police into the secure rooms of the House Intelligence Committee to briefly break up the investigation into the president.
After Mr. Trump’s defeat last year, Mr. Gaetz once again rallied to his side, defending the president’s baseless claims of widespread election fraud. Mr. Gaetz helped organize efforts among lawmakers to challenge President-elect Joseph R. Biden Jr.’s victory during Congress’s certification of it on Jan. 6 that was disrupted for hours by a pro-Trump mob that stormed the Capitol. Mr. Gaetz later traveled to Wyoming to hold a rally against Representative Liz Cheney, a Republican leader who had voted to impeach Mr. Trump for inciting the riot.
In 2017, Mr. Gaetz was the only member of Congress to vote against a law that gave the federal government more power and money to fight human trafficking.
“Voters in Northwest Florida did not send me to Washington to go and create more federal government,” Mr. Gaetz said in a local television interview at the time. “If anything, we should be abolishing a lot of the agencies at the federal level.”
Mr. Gaetz’s personal life has gained attention before. Last summer, he announced that he had a son, Nestor Galban, 19, though Mr. Gaetz said he was not Mr. Galban’s biological father, nor had he adopted him. Mr. Galban had been 12 when they met and had come to the United States from Cuba; Mr. Gaetz was at the time dating Mr. Galban’s sister.
“He is a part of my family story,” Mr. Gaetz told People magazine in June. “My work with Nestor, our family, no element of my public service could compare to the joy that our family has brought me.”
Mr. Gaetz is now engaged to an analyst named Ginger Luckey, 26, whom he proposed to at Mr. Trump’s Mar-a-Lago club on Dec. 30.
It was unclear how investigators in the Greenberg case began examining Mr. Gaetz’s conduct. Last June, federal prosecutors secured an indictment against Mr. Greenberg, accusing him of stalking a political rival.
Around that time, federal authorities seized Mr. Greenberg’s phone and laptop, according to court records. They discovered evidence that Mr. Greenberg, whose job responsibilities included issuing licenses, was creating fake identification cards for himself and a teenage girl, and was experimenting with holograms used on permits for concealed firearms, according to court documents.
Two months later, he was indicted on the sex trafficking charge. From May to November 2017, prosecutors said, Mr. Greenberg targeted the girl, who was between 14 and 17, saying he “recruited” and “solicited” her for sex acts in exchange for unspecified perks or favors.
Mr. Greenberg worked in advertising before running successfully at the age of 31 in 2016 for tax collector in Seminole County.
Within days of taking office, he fired three employees who had supported his predecessor and began spending more than $1.5 million in taxpayer money on personal expenses, including guns, ammunition, body armor and a drone, as well as on computers for his own cryptocurrency venture, a county audit later revealed.
The following year, according to The Orlando Sentinel, Mr. Greenberg posted a photograph of himself on social media with Milo Yiannopoulos, a right-wing personality who has a history of making racist remarks. The newspaper also detailed Mr. Greenberg’s own misogynist and anti-Muslim comments on Facebook.
In his bid for re-election, Mr. Greenberg turned in late 2019 to clandestine tactics to undermine a possible rival, according to court papers. Prosecutors said he sent an anonymous letter to the school where one potential candidate worked that made unfounded accusations of sexual misconduct with a student and making similar claims on a fake Facebook account.
As the primary race intensified last summer, similar messaging began appearing on fake social media accounts that have been tied to Mr. Stone.
“Watch out Seminole county,” said someone named April Goad on Facebook, warning Floridians “don’t open your door” to the rival candidate, according to Graphika, a company that specializes in analyzing social media.
The post linked to an article about the rival published on Central Florida Post, a website controlled by Mr. Stone’s associates that had written favorable articles about Mr. Greenberg. The website was founded by a member of the Proud Boys who has been linked to security providers for Mr. Stone on Jan. 6 in Washington in the lead-up to the insurrection at the Capitol.
Mr. Greenberg’s re-election efforts quickly evaporated when he was first indicted last June, and he resigned a day later.
Kitty Bennett and Susan C. Beachy contributed research.
16-year-old girl killed in shooting near Orlando gas station, police say
ORLANDO, Fla. – A girl died early Sunday in a shooting near a gas station on John Young Parkway in Orlando, according to police.
The victim was identified as 16-year-old Tavyiah King, the niece of Orlando City Commissioner Regina Hill.
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The Orlando Police Department said officers arrived to the Wawa gas station at North John Young Parkway and Silver Star Road around 3 a.m. Sunday after receiving reports of a shooting.
Officers said they found King in the 3600 block of Silver Star Road. She was then taken to a hospital, where she later died, according to police.
Details surrounding the shooting have not yet been released by authorities.
King’s mom, Alisha Rodriquez, said her daughter might have been dropped off there after she was shot last night leaving a party with other teens.
Rodriguez said King turned 16 in January and was a sophomore at Evans High School. Rodriguez is begging anyone who knows something about the fatal shooting to come forward.
“I miss her already,” Rodriguez said. “I miss my baby so much.”
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Rodriguez said King was leaving a party with friends, riding in a car when somehow it came under fire. Rodriguez said her daughter was not the intended target.
“She was almost home, and from what I’m hearing, someone shot the car she was in and she was the only one, unfortunately, (who) got hit,” Rodriguez said.
On Sunday, King’s family and community leaders came together to grieve and pray.
Hill said she and the rest of her family are begging for justice.
“I’m asking if you all can help me find the murderers of my niece,” Hill said.
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90,000 Cyclist from Yaroslavka is among the prize-winners of the Olympics
Gulnaz Khatuntseva – track cyclist. She returned from the Olympic Games with a bronze medal, which she received in Madison, a type of endurance track cycling race. Gulnaz is our neighbor; she lives on the Yaroslavl highway. She told the ZB correspondent about her family and her sports career.
Mountain bike beginnings
Olympians were honored as heroes in Moscow Photo: Alexander Valov
Gulnaz was born in Bashkortostan, in the small village of Chekmagush, where she lived until the age of 14.The children, according to the girl, were seven in the family, and the bike was one for all. She got on a sports bike at the age of 13 – already consciously.
– At school I was engaged in singing and dancing, but when the choreographer fell ill, out of curiosity I decided to go to the cycling section. And off we go, – the cyclist laughs. – And I started with mountain bike – mountain cycling. In the same discipline, she received her first major awards.
Once the girl’s first coach, Rinat Khavizov, suggested that she move to Moscow.But the father of fourteen-year-old Gulnaz was categorically against it.
– We then went from the competition to persuade dad, but by our arrival … he was gone. The coach talked to my mother, and she allowed me to go, – said the girl. – There were five or six such children in total, and after the move we lived with the coach’s daughter.
Competed under a false name
In Moscow, the girl did not immediately get into big sports either.
– Once I was at the winter city championship. And one of the participating girls got sick. Then I was offered to compete under her name so that there was a full lineup of participants, – said Gulnaz. – I won this race. It was very funny, because the organizers had to redo the letter in my name.
And after that they decided to look at the cyclist at the track. It was an indoor velodrome with a track loop of only 333 meters and a track slope of 42 °.
– When I first saw the track from above, I decided that I would never ride it: it looked so frightening, – the girl admitted.- But I was persuaded, and I could not get off the track for two hours. Not because I liked it, no, it’s just that the track bike has no brakes, and due to lack of experience I could not get off the bike.
Gulnaz said that then she called her relatives every day.
– I remember saying: “Imagine, if I train, I will get into the Moscow team!” And then the Moscow team was replaced by the Russian national team in conversations . .. My relatives supported me very much, – the girl smiles.- I am glad that everything turned out like this: then everything was good for me both with training and with studies. And I still train with Yunost Moskvy at one of their velodromes.
On the track immediately after childbirth
Now Gulnaz has two coaches – her husband Alexander Vasilyevich Khatuntsev and father-in-law Vasily Pavlovich Khatuntsev.
– At first I was trained only by Vasily Pavlovich: Sasha was then a cyclist himself, and male cyclists rarely visit Russia, – said the girl.- As a man and a woman, we met when Sasha had already finished his career as an athlete and returned to Russia. Over time, he began to train me too.
By the way, Gulnaz performed at the Olympics, having managed to recover after the birth of her daughter Victoria, who is now a year and eight months old.
– I got pregnant a year before the scheduled start of the Olympic Games. And also began to recover before the transfer. It was very hard and painful, – she admitted.- Without Sasha, I would not have coped: he is a husband, a coach, and a mentor. He is my everything. It seems to me that if the Olympics had not been postponed, I would not have gotten to it, it was so difficult then.
Now Gulnaz is coming to his senses after the Games. According to her, she is still impressed and does not realize that everything is over. And very happy.
With husband Alexander and daughter Photo: Yana Semenyuk
90,000 What is demisexuality and what are its signs
An open and honest attitude towards sexuality is becoming the norm, but not all people strive for liberation.For example, for demisexuals, sex is possible only after a long and trusting relationship, or even unnecessary. “Afisha Daily” talks about this phenomenon with the help of a sexologist, psychotherapist and demisexuals themselves.
Sexual orientation or choice?
For the first time, the concept of “demisexuality” appeared in the Urban Dictionary, an online English slang dictionary, only in 2014. By definition, this is a type of sexuality in which a person does not feel attraction to a partner until a close emotional connection is established between them .
Family psychologist and psychotherapist Marina Travkova believes that demisexual people have a whole range of manifestations of sexuality. “Some demisexuals do not want sex, but have romantic feelings, someone can only feel attraction in deep and reliable relationships,” says Travkova.
Could demisexuality be a conscious choice, or is it exclusively a part of our unconscious? Sexologist, psychologist, blogger and polyamor Arina Vintovkina is sure that there is no definite answer and it is hardly possible at all.Some researchers attribute demisexuality to orientation, others simply to the organization of sexual life. “I believe that demisexuality, like most aspects of the manifestation of our sexuality, is always a fusion of innate and social, both in men and in women 90,080,” Vintovkina says.
“I am a hom-romantic kupiosexual”: how people live who do not need sex
“I am a homromantic kupiosexual”: how people who do not need sex live
Demisexuality is not diagnosed in the doctor’s office, this term exists rather for self-determination, so scientists do not distinguish its clear signs.But demisexuals themselves periodically make up checklists:
you do not know how to relate to sex, and in talking about it you feel uncomfortable;
you understand attractiveness differently from most people;
you want intimacy, but for a long time you cannot find a suitable partner;
you understand sex primarily as a duty;
you do not fully understand what flirting is and why you need it;
you would rather go on a date with a friend than a new person;
if you are attracted to only one person close to you.
How do demisexuals feel?
Demisexuals are not capable of experiencing primary sexual attraction, that is, based on a person’s physical attractiveness. Alexandra, who agreed to talk to Afisha Daily about her demisexuality, admits that she often encounters a misunderstanding of friends and acquaintances who are attracted to complete strangers. “When someone evaluates the appearance of a person passing by and accompanies the assessment with the statements“ sexy, wow, I would be with her … ”, he does not find support on my part and is surprised,” says Alexandra.
At the same time, demisexuals can feel secondary sexual attraction – it arises on the basis of a trusting relationship with a partner. The demisexual Anastasia says that before meeting her girlfriend, she never felt attracted to anyone, and now her libido is focused exclusively on her partner. “ Before, I just called myself“ tanyasexual ” (this is the name of my girlfriend), but then I learned about such a wonderful term as demisexuality, and everything fell into place,” says Anastasia.
A 2014 study by the AVEN Asexuality Education and Awareness Network found that 90,079 Two-thirds of demisexuals do not feel the need for or dislike sex .
A column by Washington Post journalist Meryl Williams has become a real breakthrough in understanding the feelings of demisexuals. In this emotional text, she admits that in a relationship for a long time she was not ready for physical intimacy, which is why many men were irritated and even blamed her.
“So … how long can I wait?” Some asked. Many acquaintances ended after just a few weeks.
The woman began to wonder if she could be attracted at all. She felt guilty towards those with whom she met. But, having found support on the Internet, I realized that she was able to want sex, she just needed more time for this than the rest.
How can demisexuality complicate a relationship?
Demisexuality is not the kind of sexuality you find in pop culture. People with this sense of self are often forced to put up with their assigned place on the sidelines of conventional ideas about sexuality.
Arina Vintovkina highlighted the main difficulties faced by demisexuals, and they are mainly associated with social stereotypes. The atmosphere of pronounced sexuality that reigns in society is useful in some way, for example, in breaking the stereotype that sex for one night is a stigma that will be with a woman for the rest of her life. On the other hand, 90,079 demisexuals are often forced by public opinion to consider themselves not sexy enough, “modern”, “progressive” 90,080.“Instead of treating it as their own peculiarity, demisexuals begin to think of themselves as a wrong or erroneous person,” Vintovkina says. “Why can others easily make acquaintances in a bar and enjoy sex for one night, but I can’t?”
A girl who wished to remain anonymous spoke about her experience of sexual relations in which she was not attracted. “If I had an idea that it happens that way, that it’s normal, that I’m not“ broken ”, my sex life would have developed more harmoniously,” she admits. In addition, the heroine of this text had sex with a demisexual partner long before the formation of deep affection – simply because it is so familiar and “right”.
Arina Vintovkina also draws attention to pressure from partners – this is another frequent phenomenon that, unfortunately, demisexuals face, regardless of their gender: “Why are you not like everyone else? Any normal man / woman would have long ago … And this list of claims can be continued for a long time. ”
Demisexuality, like any other manifestation of sexuality that does not correspond to generally accepted views, is often perceived by partners not as a personality trait, but as something wrong that must be undoubtedly corrected.So partners force demisexuals to the model of manifestation of sexuality, which is familiar to them. This can jeopardize the relationship, although demisexuality can be temporary.
“The situation when one in a couple wants sex, and the other does not, can be imagined among those who do not identify themselves as demisexual,” says Travkova.
From time to time, the lack of attraction overtakes absolutely any relationship, sometimes for very trivial reasons: fatigue, stress, job changes, pregnancy and the first time after childbirth, when a lot of time and resources are spent on caring for a child.
Almost all couples have periods when they do not want sex or when one of the partners does not want sex. Therefore, demisexuality can be a temporary phenomenon, or it can accompany your relationship throughout your life.
Are there any advantages to demisexuality?
If you think about it, demisexuals not only teach us not to get hung up on sex, but by their example show an alternative way of developing relationships. Arina Vintovkina recalls that from the point of view of sexology , what is a disappointing disadvantage for one person can be a decisive advantage for another when choosing a partner for .“Sexual attraction only to an emotionally close person often helps demisexuals choose partners more carefully and reduces the risk of encountering misunderstandings in relationships,” Vintovkina believes. The sexual life of demisexuals is more measured and predictable. They are less likely to have stories “for one night”, which means that they are more protected from all kinds of negative consequences that can arise from spontaneous sexual intercourse.
In addition, when we consider demisexuality as a phenomenon that does not correspond to generally accepted norms for the manifestation of sexuality, we are all a little disingenuous.“There are many couples who do not have sex, but are tenderly tied to each other, scratching each other’s backs and watching TV shows under the same blanket, but they have little or no sex,” Travkova said. The psychologist claims that such couples in the United States, according to various sources, are up to 20% among those who are in long-term relationships. Moreover, couples who consider their relationship to be good and trusting rate the value of sex in life quite low – up to 20% of overall well-being. But when the relationship deteriorates, the value of sex immediately skyrockets to 60-70%.
Travkova is sure that if in any couple, demisexual or not, there is a willingness to do something for another, then there will always be a way to please the partner . The spectrum of practices for satisfaction and self-satisfaction is huge, and it is far from being limited to sexual intercourse. “I call it ‘the law of a Georgian taxi driver,’” Travkova says. – This is my joke term, which conveys the words of the driver who gave me a lift one day: “If at least one toe on one foot works for you, you are a man!”
“Sexual relationship is much more than just sexual intercourse”
“Sexual relationships are much more than just sexual intercourse.”
Demisexuality cannot and should not affect the likelihood of being in a happy relationship – Alexandra is sure of this, who did not set out to find a demisexual partner, but met him.“I was looking for people to create a musical group,” says the woman. “At first we made friends, and after six months it gradually developed into strong sympathy.”
One of the heroines said that she attends cuddle-parties – parties at which strangers gather in a safe space, hug each other and hold hands. There she noticed a person who did not interact with anyone. They found many common themes, and in these relationships the girl was able to find the positive aspects of demisexuality.“Thanks to information about the existence of such a phenomenon as demisexuality, I was able to better understand myself, become more attentive to my needs and less to adjust myself to the peerless social standard of ,” she says.
90,000 Why are my hands shaking?
Why are my hands shaking?
Anxiety, agitation, these are normal causes that could lead to trembling of the fingers or hands.Even if you are in excellent health, you may notice a slight tremor by simply stretching your arms out and keeping them straight (your fingers will start to shake a little).
This is the natural state of your body. Another similar example is offered by piercing needles. This is an action that requires concentration, concentration and tension, causing the hands to shake. It is worth worrying when you notice that your hands are shaking more often than usual.
Involuntary handshake is a problem that complicates even the simplest of daily activities.Eating, writing, or drinking water becomes extremely difficult and demanding. Actions that require more precision or diligence may be forgotten altogether. And this is the everyday life of people with shaking hands. A person begins to think – why? Maybe the earthquake started recently? Or maybe it gets worse. It probably started gradually? Could this have happened when I was under stress, I was very angry?
Whatever the cause, “tremor” is the name experts attribute to these trembling hands (and sometimes the voice, head, mouth, and legs).This happens to people more often than you think, and the causes and consequences can be very different.
Essential tremor (tremor)
Essential tremor (ET) is the most common tremor disorder. It usually starts in the fingers, but can spread to the hands, head, voice, or other parts of the body.
ET is different in that it affects your hands, especially when they move. Many other tremors occur even when we are at rest.
This may be related to inheritance. This means that if one of your parents is shaking, you are more likely to start one someday.
In some cases, vibration can be caused by toxic substances in the environment. Age is another risk factor. Although significant tremors can occur at any age, it is more likely in people over 40. The odds increase with age.
ET is not life threatening, but may deteriorate over time.Stress, fatigue, and excess caffeine can make the situation worse. At some point, eating, drinking, writing, and all the other daily tasks we do manually can become more challenging.
This condition is difficult to cure. There are medications, but none of them work consistently. There is a possibility of so-called deep brain stimulation, in which doctors implant a device in your brain to help control tremors. If shaky hands are causing problems, ask your doctor, if this treatment can help you.
Tremor is an early symptom of Parkinson’s disease, which affects 10 million people worldwide. Not everyone with the disease suffers from tremors, but most notice tremors in an arm, leg, or even one toe in the early stages.
Shivers usually affect only one side of your body. This usually happens when you relax your muscles. That is why it is called the trembling of the world.
When you move, the tremor stops.Even a slight flexion of the fingers can help. Like other types of tremors, stress or anxiety can make the situation worse. Shivers can spread from one side of the body to the other.
This condition affects the immune system, brain, nerves and spinal cord, and can also cause hand tremors. There is trembling in the arm or leg. MS can cause various tremors. Most often, for example, significant tremors are observed during movement.
Refusal from alcohol
Tremor is one of the first signs.If you are not too hooked, tremors can only last for a few days. If you drink a lot or for a long time, they can last a year or even longer.
It is not always a disease
A handshake does not always mean that you are sick. Sometimes a tremor is your body’s response to something:
Drugs – Block a chemical in the brain called dopamine (it transfers information from one part of your brain to another). These medicines are used to maintain your mood.When the drug is stopped, the tremor will subside.
Disadvantage of B12 : Without it, your nervous system won’t function properly. It can be found in meat, fish, poultry, eggs, and dairy products. If you are getting so little that your hands are shaking, your doctor will prescribe you an injection of this medication.
Caffeine: A cup of coffee or tea can cause hand shake.
Stress: From financial and work worries to relationship and health problems, stress makes you shiver.Severe anger, intense hunger, or lack of sleep can make you shiver. This is known as physiological tremor.
Low blood sugar : Your doctor will call this hypoglycemia. It activates your body’s natural stress response and makes you shiver.
Overactive Thyroid : This gland is on your neck just above the collar. When this is stimulated, your entire body is mobilized for stress. You have trouble sleeping, your heart may beat faster, and your hands start to shake.
Nerve damage : Injury, injury, illness, or problems with the central nervous system can also cause tremors.