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Declan McDonogh convinced he has ‘live chance’ on Ebanoran
Declan McDonogh’s only previous Epsom Derby ride was on an unconsidered 50/1 shot but the former champion jockey goes into this Saturday’s blue-riband convinced he has a “live chance” of landing the world’s most prestigious Classic on Ebanoran.
The colt, first past the post in last month’s Derrinstown Trial, is the longest-priced of the first three home from that Leopardstown race in Epsom betting but despite losing the prize in the stewards’ room his rider is taking a lot of positives from that performance and even the fact he is lining up at all.
Trainer John Oxx’s record of two winners and a third from just three Derby starters is outstanding and the Aga Khan’s four victories as an owner have come from just a dozen starters in the historic race.
In contrast McDonogh’s sole experience came on board the Aidan O’Brien-trained Anton Chekhov who raced second for much of the race in 2007 before fading to finish 12th of 17 behind Authorized.
That was the year that O’Brien famously saddled a remarkable eight runners in the Derby and although he is set to run ‘only’ half that number in 2014, they are led by the warm favourite Australia, and backed up by the second favourite, Geoffrey Chaucer.
McDonogh knows all about the latter, having finished ahead of him in the Derrinstown, and while he respects Australia’s credentials, the jockey is looking forward to taking him on.
“Obviously Australia has a good turn of foot and the pedigree to get the trip. He also looks like an easy ride which will help Joseph (O’Brien.) But I think our horse is going there with a live chance and is entitled to be there.
“I know he is by Oasis Dream but the dam’s side has stamina and he relaxed very well at Leopardstown even when they went slow and it turned into a messy race,” McDonogh said.
No one can know for sure they will stay until they do but the pedigree says he should,” he added.
Co Kerry-born apprentice Oisín Murphy, the rising star of the jockey ranks in Britain, has secured a first Derby ride on the outsider Red Galileo this Saturday while other rider news yesterday included another development in the shifting situation at Godolphin, with Kevin Manning booked to ride Sudden Wonder instead of Mikael Barzalona.
‘Positive rider’Charlie Appleby
“He is a very positive rider and experienced around Epsom. He partnered New Approach, Sudden Wonder’s sire, to victory in the Derby.”
The Aga Khan himself has expressed confidence in Ebanoran lasting out the famous mile and a half and the owner reported: “John Oxx feels he is a progressive horse, one that improves with his racing. He’s counting on that.
“I don’t feel you can ever win the Derby if you don’t stay. My colt has stamina on the dam side and that is a good thing.”
Fascinating Rock got the Derrinstown in the stewards room and will again take on Ebanoran and Geoffrey Chaucer on Saturday, with trainer Dermot Weld unconcerned about ground conditions.
“Whatever way the ground goes he will run,” he said. “He’s very sound and very well. His work is more or less complete now. Provided everything is okay, he’s a definite runner.”
Friday Night Blitz Week 10
Watch the scores and highlights from week 10 of the high school football season in Louisiana.
Abbeville 38, Erath 15
Acadiana 45, Lafayette 8
Amite 40, Kentwood 0
B.T. Washington 38, Woodlawn (SH) 16
Barbe 30, Comeaux 19
Baton Rouge Episcopal 28, Port Allen 0
Beau Chene 48, Opelousas 6
Belle Chasse 17, Landry/Walker 6
Benton 35, Natchitoches Central 16
Bogalusa 51, Loranger 28
Bolton 43, Peabody 32
Booker T. Washington 13, McDonogh #35 8
Bossier 63, Magnolia School of Excellence 0
Breaux Bridge 58, Livonia 14
Bunkie 16, Holy Savior Menard 14
Captain Shreve 33, Airline 0
Cecilia 35, North Vermilion 7
Cedar Creek 49, Tensas 0
Cedar Hill Trinity, Texas 58, Evangel Christian Academy 13
Central – B.R. 31, Live Oak 12
Chalmette 28, Riverdale 6
Claiborne 50, Calhoun Aca., Miss. 8
Country Day 38, Riverside Academy 31
DeRidder 35, Tioga 21
Delcambre 45, Houma Christian 6
Delhi Charter 40, Madison 30
Destrehan 35, Thibodaux 0
Donaldsonville 32, Berwick 10
E.D. White 28, St. James 19
East Feliciana 39, Northeast 0
East Iberville 44, Ascension Christian School 37
East Jefferson 28, West Jefferson 16
Easton 48, Kennedy 0
Ehret 36, Higgins 14
Ellender 27, South Terrebonne 26
Eunice 67, LaGrange 34
Ferriday 48, Vidalia 34
Franklin 40, New Iberia Catholic 13
Franklinton 38, Pearl River 28
General Trass (Lake Providence) 66, Rayville 22
Glenbrook 55, Arcadia 22
Gueydan 38, Elton 0
Hahnville 31, Terrebonne 0
Hannan 39, Albany 8
Hanson Memorial 21, Covenant Christian Academy 0
Highland Baptist 7, Centerville 0
Homer 49, Haynesville 0
Iota 63, Mamou 36
Jena 28, Winnfield 26
Jennings 55, Westlake 42
Jesuit 35, Rummel 10
Jonesboro-Hodge 46, Lakeside 0
Kaplan 56, Lake Arthur 26
Kinder 51, Vinton 30
Lafayette Christian Academy 49, Welsh 13
Lake Charles College Prep 67, South Beauregard 7
Lakeshore 37, Salmen 22
Loreauville 59, Jeanerette 22
Loyola College Prep 31, Mansfield 0
Lutcher 55, Patterson 22
M. L. King Charter 44, Sci Academy 6
Madison Prep 24, Brusly 20
Many 50, Lakeview 0
Marksville 28, Caldwell Parish 14
Minden 35, Franklin Parish 34
NDHS 41, Port Barre 6
Newman 48, South Plaquemines 12
North Caddo 50, D’Arbonne Woods 7
North Webster 44, Green Oaks 0
Northshore 36, Slidell 29
Oak Grove 35, Sicily Island 8
Oakdale 47, Pickering 12
Opelousas Catholic 40, Westminster Christian 6
Ouachita Christian 48, Mangham 12
Ouachita Parish 28, Pineville 22
Parkview Baptist 47, Glen Oaks 6
Parkway 17, Haughton 3
Pine 40, Varnado 18
Pointe Coupee Catholic 38, St. Edmund Catholic 29
Ponchatoula 45, Hammond 0
RHS 42, Washington-Marion 41
Red River 50, Avoyelles 32
Richwood 38, Bastrop 0
Rosepine 27, DeQuincy 9
Sacred Heart 69, North Central 0
Saint Paul’s 37, Fontainebleau 3
Scotlandville 35, Denham Springs 14
Shreveport Northwood 13, North DeSoto 7
South Lafourche 42, Assumption 28
Southern Lab 41, Slaughter 0
Southside 46, New Iberia 13
Springfield 12, Northlake Christian 0
St. Amant 10, East Ascension 6
St. Helena 47, Independence 35
St. Martin’s 27, West St. John 14
St. Martinville 56, Crowley 0
St. Michael 51, Istrouma 6
St. Thomas Aquinas 35, Pope John Paul 3
St. Thomas More 62, East St. John 60
Sulphur 41, Sam Houston 24
Tara 38, Broadmoor 16
Teurlings Catholic 50, Northside 21
Union Parish 43, Wossman 12
University (Lab) 58, Mentorship Academy 6
Vandebilt Catholic 38, Morgan City 12
West Monroe 42, Ruston 14
Westgate 47, Carencro 21
Woodlawn (BR) 62, McKinley 0
Ravens rally to beat Vikings in overtime, 34-31, on Justin Tucker’s game-winning field goal
Kicker Justin Tucker hit a 36-yard field goal in the final minute of overtime Sunday to lift the Ravens to a wild 34-31 win over the Minnesota Vikings at M&T Bank Stadium.
Tucker’s game-winning kick with 20 seconds left punctuated a 10-play, 82-yard Ravens drive and erased a disappointing start and end to regulation in Baltimore. The comeback win was the Ravens’ third this season in which they’ve trailed by double digits. Before this season, quarterback Lamar Jackson had been 0-6 in such games, including in the playoffs.
With the win, the Ravens moved to 6-2 and kept hold of first place atop the AFC North. They’ll have a short week before Thursday’s game against the disappointing Miami Dolphins (2-7), when they could get back key injured players like tight end Nick Boyle, wide receiver Sammy Watkins and defensive tackle Brandon Williams.
Jackson had 21 carries for 120 yards — tying Michael Vick’s NFL record for most 100-yard rushing games by a quarterback in regular-season history with 10 — and finished 27-for-41 for 266 yards passing, three touchdowns and two interceptions, the last of which spoiled a potential game-winning drive early in overtime. Outside linebacker Anthony Barr tipped a pass in the flat to himself, absorbed a hit from running back Devonta Freeman and somehow came down with the ball secured at the Vikings’ 38-yard line.
Jackson outdueled Vikings quarterback Kirk Cousins, who finished with 187 yards and two touchdowns on 17-for-28 passing. Wide receiver Justin Jefferson had three catches for a game-high 69 yards. Running back Dalvin Cook had 17 carries for 110 yards, the bulk of which came on two big carries.
It was a game of decisive momentum swings. After Kene Nwangwu opened the second half with a 98-yard kickoff return for a touchdown, restoring Minnesota’s two-touchdown lead at 24-10, the Ravens finally found a spark on offense. On the first of three consecutive touchdown drives, Jackson found fullback Patrick Ricard for three catches, including a 1-yard score on fourth-and-goal.
On the next, Jackson connected with wide receiver Devin Duvernay in the back of the end zone for his first and only catch of the game, a one-handed 5-yard score in which he got his knee down just in time.
On the go-ahead drive, the Vikings just could not stop the Ravens’ suddenly resurgent running game. The Ravens at one point ran five straight times to get down to the 1-yard line, and running back Le’Veon Bell rumbled in soon after for the go-ahead score. The Ravens had their first lead all game.
Minnesota (3-5) wouldn’t go back home quietly. The Vikings covered 75 yards in 10 plays, including a 27-yard catch to fullback C.J. Ham on third-and-3 against safety DeShon Elliott, who left the game with an upper-body injury. Cousins found Jefferson for a 12-yard completion on fourth-and-9, and two plays later, Thielen came down with an end-zone jump ball over cornerback Anthony Averett. With 66 seconds remaining, the game was tied at 31.
The Ravens’ final push in regulation ended short of midfield. They’d also had to deal with a rough start. After their offense opened the game with a field goal, their defense was knocked back by a familiar culprit: big plays.
On the Vikings’ fifth play from scrimmage, Cousins found wide receiver Justin Jefferson wide open downfield. The second-year star had separated easily from cornerback Marlon Humphrey on a double move and cruised into the end zone for a 50-yard score.
Three plays later, running back Dalvin Cook zoomed around the corner on a 66-yard pitch play. He wasn’t tackled until safety Chuck Clark tackled him at the Vikings’ 15. Minnesota inched to the goal line, and the Ravens appeared to have avoided a double-digit hole after Cousins’ goal-line pass to tight end Tyler Conklin on fourth down fell incomplete.
But inside linebacker Chris Board was called for pass interference in the back of the end zone, and Cousins sneaked in two plays later for a 1-yard score and 14-3 lead.
The Ravens couldn’t seem to catch up. They went as far as Minnesota’s 45 over the next four drives, with Jackson throwing an interception on their first drive of the 2-minute drill. On their second, the Ravens took advantage of a pass-interference penalty, and Jackson found running back Devonta Freeman on fourth down for a 5-yard score.
As they headed to halftime, the Ravens had a silver lining: As bad as they’d played on offense and defense, they trailed only 17-10.
Thursday, 8:20 p.m.
Line: Ravens by 6 ½
Bonnabel vs McDonogh 35 LiveThe New AP Iowa High School Football Rankings for 9/17/2021 The Top Ten teams in the Associated Press Iowa high school football polls of the 2021 season with first-place votes in parentheses and won-loss record, total points and position last week at right: 2021 Parry’s Power Guide: Predicting the sixth week of high school football games Noland Parry and James Edward pick winners for every Utah high school football game from the sixth week of the 2021 season. Connecticut high school football scoreboard: Week 2 CIAC scores The second Friday of the Connecticut high school football season kicks off tonight with over 50 games statewide. Here is a live look at the Top 25 teams and a link to the live MaxPreps scoreboard, which includes all teams statewide. Vitor Belfort, Rick Ross and Tyron Woodley among celebrities and athletes with sons playing high school football this fall. High school football players all want to make a name for themselves, but when your dad is famous the challenge is even greater. Examples of that dynamic are aplenty this fall at the prep level with sons of former MLB, NFL and UFC athletes taking the field – not to mention a certain Miami-based rapper. Below is a rundown of 20 current high school football players whose dads have gained notoriety either in the athletic arena or entertainment industry. And this group is gaining notoriety of its own with 11 of them being four- or five-star recruits according to 247Sports. Five others have earned at least three stars. Of the 19 dads, 15 are former NFL players with three earning spots in the Pro Football Hall of Fame. Several others earned HOF credentials with teams they played for. Four were linebackers and three played quarterback while the running back, defensive line, defensive back positions were each represented with two. High school football: Every state’s greatest running back Elijah Mitchell had one of the best debuts for a rookie running back in NFL history, rushing for 104 yards for the San Francisco 49ers last week. However, Mitchell still needs to gain about 12,150 yards to supplant another Louisiana native as the top running back in the state. Marshall Faulk, who played at George Washington Carver in New Orleans, is the all-time leading professional rusher from Louisiana, gaining 12,279 yards and making seven Super Bowls. He’s one of 31 running backs in NFL history with over 10,000 career rushing yards and one of 13 10,000-yard rushers on the MaxPreps list of the greatest pro running back from each state. Members of the list are those who gained the most rushing yards during their NFL career. Some states were not included because they did not have a qualifying rusher. They included Alaska, District of Columbia, Maine, New Hampshire and Vermont. Source of rushing yardage statistics was Pro-Football-Reference. com. Trey Lance, Trevor Lawrence, Mac Jones, Zach Wilson are rookie quarterbacks in the NFL who could someday be considered among the best quarterbacks from their respective states. Lance is from Marshall (Minn.), while Lawrence is from Cartersville (Ga.), Jones is from Bolles (Jacksonville, Fla.) and Wilson is from Corner Canyon (Draper, Utah). In order to be considered among the best in their respective states, they’ll have to beat out the likes of Steve Walsh (Minnesota), Fran Tarkenton (Georgia), Daunte Culpepper (Florida) and Jim McMahon (Utah). Those are the four quarterbacks MaxPreps has chosen as the greatest NFL quarterbacks from those four states. The rest of the list includes many of the greatest quarterbacks in NFL history, including Joe Montana from Pennsylvania, Tom Brady from California and Drew Brees from Texas. There are no hard and fast rules and choosing the greatest NFL quarterback. The selections are somewhat subjective based on career yardage, career passer rating and championships won. The only rules for the list are that the quarterback had to play high school football in the state and he had to play at least one year in the NFL. As a result, there were no qualifying quarterbacks from Alaska, Delaware, Maine, Vermont, West Virginia and Wyoming. Mater Dei (Santa Ana, Calif.) returned to action Friday and cruised to a 49-7 win over Liberty (Henderson, Nev.) at the Polynesian Football Classic, cementing its status as the No. 1 team in the MaxPreps Top 25 high school football rankings. The Monarchs are one of three teams from Southern California’s Trinity League in this week’s rankings. Sophomore quarterback Elijah Brown completed 15 of 16 passes for 213 yards and accounted for three touchdowns while Oklahoma-bound running back Raleek Brown rushed for nearly 100 yards and four scores in Mater Dei’s win. Rival and No. 3 St. John Bosco (Bellflower, Calif.) improved to 4-0 with another impressive win Friday, beating Illinois power East St. Louis 42-26. Checking in at No. 9, Servite (Anaheim, Calif.) is the third Trinity League squad in the top 10. Mater Dei, St. John Bosco and Servite haven’t trailed at any point this season, outscoring opponents 398-86. Three new teams joined this week’s MaxPreps Top 25 after De La Salle (Concord, Calif.), North Shore (Houston) and St. Joseph’s Prep (Philadelphia) dropped out. Saint Francis (Mountain View) scored a touchdown with 16 seconds remaining to knock off De La Salle 31-28, becoming the first Northern California team to beat the Spartans since 1991 – a span of 318 games. Vermont high school football coverage: Live updates, scores, results from Week 3 See below for live Twitter updates from Free Press Staff Writers Alex Abrami and Jacob Rousseau during this weekend’s Vermont high school football games, and check back later for final scores and game details. Live updates, scores and highlights from Week 5 of Wilmington-area high school football This is not the SEC, but high school football games start to mean just more, starting this week. The Mideastern Conference closes the season with a seven-week sprint to a championship and berths in a new postseason setup. Hoggard again looks like it will be at the top of the heap, but its two biggest challengers in recent years — West Brunswick and New Hanover — have had to make major adjustments early in the season around new starters and COVID-19 protocols. The Vikings and Trojans will square off tonight in a game that will tell a lot about what to expect this season. Be sure to check out the links below and our live scoreboard as games kick off. 90,000 Place Lafayette, New Orleans Place Lafayette is a public square created in the late eighteenth century in Faubourg Saint Mary, south of New Orleans’ French Quarter. The square is surrounded by civilian buildings and is decorated with several statues.
Place Lafayette was founded in 1788 as Place Gravier on a site owned by Bertrand Gravier. After the purchase of Louisiana in 1803, it became the central square of the English-speaking part of the city and has long been the center of political life in New Orleans. The square was renamed in 1824 in honor of the Marquis de Lafayette, a French aristocrat who served as a general on the side of George Washington during the American Revolutionary War.
The focal point of Place Lafayette is the bronze statue of Henry Clay. It was created in 1863 by the American sculptor Joel T. Hart and installed at the intersection of Canal Street and St. Charles Avenue. In 1900, it was moved to its current location to make way for street car lines and increase traffic.The statue pays tribute to Henry Clay, the prominent statesman who nearly won the 1845 presidential election.
In front of the Gallier Hall stands a bust of Benjamin Franklin, one of the Founding Fathers of the United States. It was created around 1860 by the neoclassical sculptor Hiram Powers. On the other side of the park stands another bust, created in 1898 by Attilio Piccirilli, an Italian-born sculptor who is currently best known for his Maine monument on New York’s Circle of Columbus.The bust depicts John McDonagh, an entrepreneur and slave owner. McDonagh left most of his fortune to the city of New Orleans to establish public schools.
Place Lafayette is bordered on all sides by large administrative buildings and courthouses. The most remarkable building is the Hall of Gallier, a magnificent structure built between 1845 and 1853 by the Greek-American architect James Gallier Sr. The building served as the City Hall of New Orleans until 1957, when a new town hall was opened on Perdido Street.
Opposite the Hall of Gallier is the United States Court of Appeal building, built in 1912. It was designed by Hale and Rogers, a New York-based architecture duo who created a large fine art building with a façade and columns on the façade.
Chapter 17 LAST MISSION OF THE AMERICAN SLAVE SHIP
LAST MISSION OF AMERICAN SLAVE SHIP
In 1850, slave owner John McDonagh died in New Orleans, who, having made posthumous gifts to New Orleans and Baltimore for educational purposes, demanded that one condition be fulfilled – that after several years his slaves were given freedom and the opportunity to emigrate to Liberia. Before the spring of 1859, the estate agents began to look for a ship on board which the freed slaves could be transported to the Negro republic on the African coast. At first, they offered to transport them on board a packet boat, which every spring with emigrants and cargo deliveries departed from Baltimore, and later that year returned with a load of food from the colony. However, around this time it became clear that the ship “Rebecca”, docked at the government dock in New Orleans, by May 1, was supposed to arrive on the west coast of Africa.He could provide the freed slaves, along with their luggage, with suitable conditions for moving. Negotiations soon took place. At the last moment, the commissioners decided to send a doctor with them and hastily inquired about it from Dr. Howard Smith, a professor of medical college who recommended George Howe, a just-lectured young student of Natchez, Mississippi.
The Rebecca was due to leave at nine that morning when Dr. Smith found a young student at the gate of a charity hospital and asked without a greeting, “George, do you want to go to the African coast?” Howe immediately replied, “One hundred percent, doctor. “- “When will you get ready?” Thinking that the professor was joking, Howe said, “At least now.” Taking the floor from him, the professor explained the situation and the need for such haste. When he finished, the young man jumped into the doctor’s convertible and soon found himself in the office of McDonagh’s commissioners, where he signed an agreement to travel as a medic for the freed slaves. 
In the office, some gentlemen indulged in funny jokes about “wool and ivory” and one of them wrote a letter to the doctor of the USS Vincennes, patrolling the coast of Africa, telling Howe: “This letter of recommendation may be useful to you.” …But he was so absorbed in the idea of a trip to Africa that he did not attach much importance to these jokes and went home to pack his books and clothes.
At twelve o’clock he was aboard the ship and, introducing himself to the captain, noted that he looked annoyed. Soon the captain invited him into the cabin and ordered the steward to prepare the room. On deck, Howe saw a motley crowd of blacks, mulattoes, Quarterons, men, women, and children of various ages, forty-three in number. They worked diligently to carry the luggage on board the ship.Many of them were reluctant to go and seemed to be discouraged by the prospect of leaving home. Soon, several commissioners arrived with wives who knew the blacks, and after a while they managed to cheer up the immigrants a little.
The ship departed from the pier at four o’clock in the evening. Early the next morning they were at the mouth of the river, and an hour later they were on the open sea. A pleasant southern breeze drove the ship on at eight miles an hour. At a dinner party, Howe found the naturalized Scotsman Captain K., first mate to Mr. T. of Long Island, two Spaniards who spoke little English. A performance followed. One Spaniard explained that he was traveling with a companion to a trading post on the African coast, representing a trading house in Havana. Waiting a long time for a suitable opportunity to get there, he took a ticket for this ship for the entire length of the route.
After supper the mate stayed in the cabin, other officers came to the table and were introduced: “This is Dr. Sobones, I am the mate, here is the second mate, there is the carpenter.Now tell me, how did you manage to come with us at the last moment? ” After Howe explained, the assistant said, “You need to know a thing or two about the ship and its voyage before you get down to business.” It sounded like a joke by the commissioners and made the young doctor think. In the evening, while the assistant was on duty, he approached him and after a few remarks about the weather said: “Mr. T., I did not quite understand your remark at dinner. Please explain. ” After a long silence, the assistant replied, “Okay, sooner or later you will find out.I don’t think I’ll betray a secret if I tell you now that this ship is a slave ship. Yes, that’s it. The ship belongs to a Spanish company, which is represented here by a Spaniard, the eldest of the passengers. In due time he will take over the duties of the captain. Another Spaniard will be his assistant. They bought this ship two months ago and faced all the customs problems. The ship is flying an American flag and is believed to be acquired by a New Orleans trading house that is a subsidiary of a Spanish company.They wanted to get documents allowing the ship to sail to the African coast. Now everything that is intended for this region is perceived with suspicion, and the Spaniards decided to go without a load to purchase palm oil, bright bafia wood and other goods. For various reasons, the customs authorities refused to issue the documents. Meanwhile, the ship was loaded with empty barrels, barrel rivets in an uncouth form, from which they were going to shoot down other barrels, if necessary. The issue of food supply was very delicate, since food could not be transported profitably as a cargo for this area and it was not suitable for barter exchange.Then the Spaniards proposed to equip the ship as a whaling vessel for fishing in the area from Bermuda to the Cape of Good Hope. This would allow the vessel to occasionally approach the African coast for water and fresh food, and would also require more travel time. It was at this time that the trading house learned of a plan by McDonagh’s commissioners to send ex-slaves through Baltimore to Liberia. Having considered this issue, we decided to offer the ship as a means of transportation for a very reasonable price. If the customs officers agreed to this, they would be paid a good bonus.The offer was accepted and a departure date was set. Now the Spaniards had a legitimate cargo for the African coast and easily obtained the necessary documents for a trading post on the Congo River, stopping on the way to Liberia. I can also tell you that your presence here is unpleasant for Captain K., for he was going to follow these negroes to the southern coast of Cuba, leave them in a familiar place and continue their voyage. Now this is impossible without an agreement with you, but I do not think that he will tell you anything about this. You are a stranger, we are always in full view of other ships. It will be easy for you to whisper a few words to upset the expedition. ”
The next morning, early in the morning, when the captain and the doctor were talking on deck over a cup of coffee, he remarked: “These negroes are of great value, each of them possesses some craft that would interest any plantation. Women have gained a lot of experience too. For them in Cuba they would give a tidy sum. Cuba is very close, and I know where you can land blacks without much risk. “
The doctor immediately replied: “Captain, these blacks should be dropped off at their destination in Africa, and as far as possible, I will not allow the program to be changed.”
As if dispelling any doubts, the captain said: “Of course, they should be landed in Liberia, it’s a pity that so much money is wasted.”
During the watch that followed, the assistant asked the doctor what he and the captain were talking about, because upon returning to the cabin, the latter had a long and violent conversation with the Spaniards. He could not convince them that the landing of blacks in Cuba would pose little risk, with or without the consent of the doctor. After learning the details of the conversation between the captain and the doctor, the mate said: “Well, now the issue has been resolved, we are moving southeast instead of southwest. This means that we will not be stopping in Cuba at this stage of the voyage. ”
“This is my second flight of this kind,” said the assistant. “The first was from New York to Africa and Brazil, and since slavery is likely to be outlawed in Brazil, and coolies are getting cheaper than blacks in Cuba, our ship will be the last slave ship.If we are lucky, we will bring the last shipment of live goods. First, you need to understand that it takes one person as the main manager and three agents, each with an assistant who can replace the agent in case of illness or death. The leader lives in Havana. One agent with an assistant, a Spanish captain and his friend, are with us on board the ship. He went to the United States to acquire the fastest ship money can buy. Found in New Orleans a clipper from Baltimore “Rebecca” with a displacement of five hundred and fifty tons, with high sails, foxes to bom-bram-rails, staysails to bom-bram-topmills, with a record wind speed of fourteen knots, with the ability to be determined by traverse distance.The vessel was equipped with new sails, rigging, additional spars and yards, as well as a large supply of material for making new sails during the voyage, replacing unreliable rails, running rigging, etc. Customs officials apparently treated the vessel with suspicion and watched closely for everything that touched the ship. Just at this time, the McDonagh commissioners made an offer to take the Negroes as passengers, after which the appropriate preparations were made. Then they began purchasing large quantities of rice, white beans, pork and biscuits, allegedly for passengers.By means of a long hose, all the barrels were filled with water from the hole under the waterline in the bow of the ship. It was equipped with planks and bunks made between decks along the entire length of the hold according to the number of expected passengers. A large cooking stove was erected on deck. Another agent with an assistant departed a few months ago for the African coast, purchased and agreed to take out in parts under the contract as many blacks as they can fit inside the ship. Only the Spaniards knew the meeting place with them on board our ship.Another agent and an assistant were stationed as fishermen, I know for sure, on a rarely visited island on the south side of Cuba. There, with a companion or two, they fish for sale, so they need a permanent camp and a small boat. When we arrive, they will be ready to tell us where and when to unload the goods. In Havana, the leader has everything at the ready, his special functions include bribing customs officers and keeping them away from a place where they do not want to be seen. An ounce of gold, seventeen dollars per person, is paid to customs for each set of live goods unloaded. They share the bribe among themselves, in accordance with the previous agreements. ”
Life on board was pleasant, as our ship was supplied with wonderful provisions, delicacies necessary for comfort. In the conditions of wonderful weather, the passage along the Gulf Stream aroused great interest. Every day, experiments were carried out, the size and type of sails were changed to achieve maximum speed. All masts were checked for maximum load, new rails and moose stays were added until there was no doubt about the ability of the masts to withstand any load.The ship easily covered three hundred twenty – three hundred and fifty miles a day, going as steeply against the wind as possible. In the strip of southeastern trade winds, the ship sailed for twelve hours heading east-northeast, twelve hours south-west, and during the day moved east at a speed of thirty miles.
The negroes soon got used to the movement of the ship, but the length of the voyage tired them, and they repeated more than once that when they wanted to return to Louisiana, they would go on foot, since they had spent enough time on the swinging deck. To keep themselves occupied, women began to mend and wash the officers’ linen. And since their dishes were stacked in the lower hold, it was necessary to find another. Washing and drying was done easily, but ironing was done by filling an aluminum bucket with hot coals and using it as an iron – albeit without much success.
On July 1, 1859, a terrible storm broke out, with wind and rain, the sea raged heavily. Cape Palmas appeared, on which Monrovia, the capital of Liberia, was located.All the structures near the water were darkened by haze, and as it cleared, a small steamer appeared and fired a blank shot, inviting the Rebecca to anchor. The ship raised the American flag and moved on, accompanied by a steamer that turned out to be the British cruiser Viper, which perhaps came closer and sent an officer aboard the Rebecca. He politely explained his appearance and was invited downstairs, where, as a gesture of courtesy, he was shown the ship’s documents, because the latter was now under the jurisdiction of the Liberian authorities. The officer kindly explained that he recognized the ship as soon as it was within sight, and that his steamer, along with other cruisers, had been looking out for the Rebecca for some time. He said that his government, by dispatch by mail steamer to São Paulo de Luanda, notified the cruisers that the Rebecca was under suspicion. The vessel was described with such accuracy that it was impossible to make a mistake. The officer believed that the ship had cargo for export, and was greatly annoyed when he discovered that the cargo was intended for import and destination.After a short stay, he left the ship and retired by steamer in a southerly direction.
Then a long canoe, driven by four apparently naked blacks, approached the ship from the coast across the very rough sea without much effort. Approaching, they climbed over the handrails and began to walk, bouncing, among the passengers – without clothes, except for patches of cloth tied around the waist. There were five of them, muscular, short and stout, with tattoos from forehead to nose and cheeks, bluish black. These were natives-Krumen from a tribe that is widespread on the coast. They were hired by ship captains to load goods and water, or as pilots. They were rarely taken for export. At the sight of the natives-Krumen, the passengers, seized with horror and fright, raised a hellish howl. The sailors, taking advantage of the situation, walked among the frightened blacks and told them that now was the time for them to take off their clothes and prepare to go ashore in order to be like the people among whom they would live.
The ship anchored at the place designated by the natives-Krumen, and sent word of arrival ashore.However, due to the storm, the courier did not appear until the next evening. His appearance calmed the blacks like oil on stormy waters. The agent turned out to be enthusiastic and soon made it clear to them that the Garden of Eden was just an unsightly suburb compared to Monrovia.
July 4 was celebrated as a holiday, and the ship’s officers were invited to dinner with the President of the Republic and his ministers.
In the evening, the missionary, the only white person living in the Negro Republic, took the doctor aside and reported serious doubts about the nature of the Rebecca’s mission, and upon arriving on the ship, he told the officers that they were suspected.At the immediately convened council, they discussed measures for disembarking passengers with their belongings the next day. An English gunboat has just returned to Monrovia and anchored a short distance from the ship. I wanted to get rid of her presence as soon as possible.
Early the next morning a flotilla of sloops, canoes and skiffs appeared. The Spanish captain told the doctor that he would go on board the ship to the Congo River, where there would be a meeting with a mail steamer. The doctor accepted this offer.By noon, the passengers were disembarked with their belongings, the captain returned with the ship’s documents, etc. We anchored and set off on a new course. The ship was immediately followed by an English cruiser, but the Rebecca’s speed was twelve miles, compared to her eight. Before nightfall, the Englishman disappeared over the horizon.
The Spanish captain appeared on deck. He was a swarthy little man with black hair and a cold, determined gaze. He wore an open shirt with a large silk scarf around his neck, white trousers with a wide red sash wrapped around his waist several times, and a wide soft hat.Typical bandit. He was followed by an assistant in much the same attire. Then he stepped forward and struck the ship’s bell. The team gathered in the quarterdeck, where the Spanish captain A. addressed her in Spanish and English.
– Sailors, now I am the captain of this ship. This is my assistant, – he said, introducing his companion. – Other officers retain their posts. We respect the former captain and mate and will consult with them. The purpose of the flight is the purchase of blacks in Africa and their delivery to Cuba.The trip is fraught with dangers, but if all goes well, there will be a lot of money. If among you there are those wishing to go ashore, the ship will stop at a place where it will be possible to disembark safely and receive double salary on the day of issue.
The team has expressed a desire to sign new clauses and the salary has been announced if the flight is successful. The American captain and his mate were entitled to $ 5,000, the second mate $ 3,500, the carpenter $ 3,000, and each sailor $ 1,500.The team numbered twenty-three people, including Turks, Greeks, Italians, Spaniards, Scots, Yankees and Danes.
It was obvious that the Spanish captain did not trust Captain K. and, although they behaved kindly towards each other, there was not the slightest sign of familiarity in their behavior. This attitude towards K. was shared by almost the entire team. Once, when Captain K. was hovering on the buin astern, checking the steering loops, a sailor at the helm pulled out a knife and made a move with the intention of cutting the rope and throwing the captain into the sea.However, the doctor noticed this and quickly drew the Spanish captain’s attention to him.
The ship was several weeks ahead of the time of arrival at the designated rendezvous point, so it slowly moved forward until it reached the distance of one day’s sail to Mayumba, located about two hundred miles north of the mouth of the Congo River. This part of the coast was heavily patrolled by the steam and sailing ships of the United States, England, Portugal and Spain, so that, as we approached the coast, we were at great risk of interception.Although the ship’s papers were valid as far as the Congo River, the ship could have been intercepted on suspicion and sent to Sierra Leone. There, the court could thoroughly investigate the case and issue a sentence of confiscation.
One day the course of a ship was adjusted so that, sailing all night in the direction of the coast, it was fifteen miles from the coast during the daytime. At this time, a skiff was launched, and a Spanish captain with two sailors got into it. They were provided with food for two days and a compass, after which they went to the shore.The ship immediately turned into the open sea, taking into account the fact that after forty days it would return to the place where the Spanish captain had landed. Now a Spanish assistant took command of the ship and went to sea, retiring four hundred miles from the coast, then to return one day and then again go to the open sea for forty days, not approaching the coast at a distance of two hundred miles. It was a very calm transition. Only in two cases were ships seen that turned out to be whaling and kept more seaward.
In the morning at dawn on the fortieth day of the voyage, the ship approached the coast close enough to clearly see the relief, but not a single living creature was found on the coast. An observer was sent up to make sure there were no ships on the horizon. The ship moved for several miles along the coast, until they saw a Negro waving a huge white flag with a large red cross along the entire length and width of the banner. This was a signal, and after a few minutes it was possible to see how several negroes were dragging a ship’s skiff out of hiding.An hour later, Captain A. was on board again. Obviously something went wrong. The agent and assistant arrived much later than expected. Both fell ill with African fever and were at a trading post on the Congo River for treatment. British cruisers passed by this place every day, and their visit was expected at any time when the ship set out on the open sea, a council was held in the cabin again, at which it was decided that since the ship’s documents were in order and allowed to go to the Congo River, then we had to move there. and expect further developments.
Light winds and strong currents delayed the departure to the trading post, which was seventy miles from the mouth of the river. When they landed, they found a boat with two white people. One of them was recognized as the agent’s assistant, who informed the captain that the agent had died of consumption and African fever. The assistant recovered slowly, and all trading operations were postponed until his recovery or the arrival of the ship. His companion in the boat turned out to be a merchant, in whose trading post he took refuge.Now the ship was forced to delay for a while, since everything goes slowly with the Spaniards. The vessel anchored seventy-five feet offshore on the left bank of the river, upstream.
One day the crew saw a longboat with an officer and ten sailors going upstream. The longboat immediately anchored under the Rebecca’s bow and remained in place while the ship was in the river. He came from the British gunboat Tigris and had information from Vixen, another gunboat that had gone further south in search of the ship. “Tigris” was at the mouth of the river to prevent any attempt to export blacks. The Spanish captain left the ship again and retired for many days. The fresh water replenishment required for the Rebecca was done by a hose running through a hole in the bow of the ship, unnoticed by the crew of the launch, even though it was several feet away.
One day a merchant from the interior of the continent came aboard and reported that a smallpox epidemic had broken out in the Negro loading pens.He asked what to do. The doctor had a package of vaccines in his pocket medicine cabinet, tied with an adhesive plaster. Having set out with the Spaniard, he traveled up the river for two days and then went deep into the interior regions, moving in a hammock suspended between two poles carried by two natives. They took a circuitous route so as not to irritate other tribes who would demand a large ransom. When they reached the paddock, they found a place surrounded by a bamboo fence eight to nine feet high, about three hundred square feet in area. Above him was a thatched roof that protruded ten feet toward the center. This very fragile structure was used as a place of confinement, but also a shelter from the sun, rain and heavy dew, which can be very cold. Such pens, built in this area with the permission of local leaders, made it possible to exhibit captured slaves without any problems. While in the hinterland, the merchants were spared uninvited guests. Several blacks, who, according to the doctor, suffered from smallpox, were infected from the natives of a tribe that often visited the coast.They communicated with the natives-Crumans, who were hired in São Paulo de Luanda. The sick were separated, new corrals were built for them in areas remote from the sea, for healthy blacks, too, and the old corrals were burned. A weakened virus was isolated from the blood of vaccinated patients, and the disease was stopped .
We bought and agreed to deliver in parts a sufficiently large number of blacks for loading on the ship. The time of departure of the ship depended only on when they were brought on board, but only on the condition that they did not fall ill with smallpox again.The blacks were sent in small batches to a place located half a day from the seaside, where they remained until a time was agreed for delivery to shore. This last transition to the coast was carried out at night, in order to arrive there long before sunrise. The ship was to arrive at dawn, and if it could not arrive at the appointed time, the whole operation was postponed for a week, and the negroes would immediately return to the paddock located half a day from the coast.
When the doctor returned to the ship, which was in the river, he found it already prepared for departure at any moment.New shipments of poultry and fruits were loaded on board. Only the Spanish captain knew the place where the blacks would be received, and not a single sailor could convey useful information to the British in the launch under the bow of the ship.
The Doctor decided to accept the invitation of the Spanish captain to stay on the ship, not only because of the risk of African fever spreading in the Congo River during his stay there, but also because of his passion for adventure, irrepressible curiosity and a deep faith in luck.It turned out that a Portuguese warship had entered the mouth of the river, but finding the English gunboat Vixen there, went north. This made things very difficult. One cruiser patrolled in the south, another stood at the mouth of the river, and the third was in the north. The Portuguese was the worst. If at this time the ship had been captured with blacks on board, it would have been taken to Sierra Leone, the sailors would have been dropped off at or near the place of capture. If the ship had a flag for identification, officers would be sent from Sierra Leone to the appropriate authorities for trial, and blacks would be sent ashore for resettlement.The ship would be sold or disassembled. If the nationality could not be established, then the officers would be sentenced to different terms of imprisonment after the trial or without it. If the seizure was carried out by a Portuguese, officers and sailors would be sent to penal settlements, and no one else would have heard anything about them. The American authorities kept the military sailing ship Vincennes here.
One early morning, it seems, October 1, 1859, the Rebecca raised anchor and set off along the river. The ship’s papers still protected the ship as it allegedly completed a failed business venture and was returning home.The English skiff was taken in tow, and the commanding officer was invited on board. It was a pleasant walk to the mouth of the river, which was reached in the afternoon. The gunboat followed to take back her officer and find out the destination. Hearing “United States” in response, someone remarked, “Well, yes! Of course!” In the evening and at night, they were heading northwest, in the direction of the United States. This was done in order to move away from the coast, to determine the strength of the wind at this time, as well as the possible speed of movement. At dawn the course was changed to the south, and the entire crew set about removing the traces of the ship’s name on the bow, stern, and boats; painted over the white porticoes on board and every piece of paper and scrap they found, along with the American flag, were thrown overboard.
“Now,” said the captain, “we have no name and nationality, we are nobody’s name. If we are captured, everyone should keep their mouth shut. Only in this case will we be able to avoid harsh punishment. ”
For four days they circled, maintaining a distance of almost one hundred and fifty miles from the coast. On the fourth day, in the afternoon, after carefully checking their position at sea, they headed for the coast. They put out all the lights, except for the one in the binnacle, which was covered with a cover so that the helmsman could see the compass, but the fire could not.Surveillance was intensified, and at three o’clock in the morning the ship was two miles offshore, at 6 degrees 10 minutes south latitude, as agreed in advance. In the calculations, they did not make a single mistake, the chronometers and estimates of the strength of the wind and current turned out to be so accurate. We already heard the noise of the breakers, but on the shore did not notice a single fire. When it got lighter, we saw a low coastline, which was interrupted by small sandy hills covered with sparse bushes.
A number of small vessels resembling oyster boats could be seen in front of the breakers, and after careful examination of the horizon, a signal was raised from the top mast in the form of a large white flag with a red cross.They answered him from the shore. Soon, moving dots could be observed on the beach. A number of elongated black objects left the coast, and, having climbed over the breakers, they stopped at a small ship. It was noticeable that the blacks were changing into boats from the breakers with canoes, each of which sat from four to six oarsmen. Having carried out the loading, the sailors headed for the ship, and after installing the ladders, the Negroes quickly got on board the ship. When a Negro got on deck, he was given a biscuit and sent downstairs.The sailboats made several round trips, and at two o’clock in the afternoon many blacks had already got on board the ship. Meanwhile, the observer from the top of the mast shouted: “Sail! Heading from the south ”.
Nothing was visible from the deck, but they immediately raised a danger signal so that they would hurry to load on board. For a short time, a small black dot was seen from the side. Smoke! Cruiser! Another signal was raised, a blood-red flag, signaling the creature of danger ashore. As far as possible, the movement on the shore accelerated.The boats were lowered from the ship, which helped significantly. The approaching ship noticed the ship, clouds of its smoke grew. It was now visible to the naked eye and identified as Vixen. There was a signal from the shore that there were few people left to load. Another hour passed, and the ship was definitely within three miles. Boats were called, and a whole flotilla of sailboats soon made their way to the ship. The boats were lifted onto the ship, the ends were thrown to the sailboats at the sides. Just at this time, the Vixen slightly changed course and fired a powerful volley, the shells from which lay downwind.In response, the Spanish captain shouted: “Let’s go!” The pin holding the anchor shackle was pulled out and the chain came off. We quickly set the sail, the negros from the sailboats climbed over the side of the ship. The empty boats with several inhabitants, the natives of the Crumans, drifted and scattered like frightened birds.
It seemed that the ship would not set off soon, everyone watched with dismay as the other sails were being set. Foxes were added, the staysails and a large square sail on a mizzen-mast from deck to topsail were raised.The Vixen was now miles away and seemed to be going at a decent speed. He changed course again and then blew out a cloud of smoke. Everyone felt uncomfortable when the splash of water showed where the cannon ricocheted. It lay very close. However, the ship, apparently, gained in distance due to its maneuver, and the stronger the wind, the more it moved away from the ground. A cloud of black smoke indicated that the gunboat made an attempt to close the distance lost during the course change in order to fire a shot.The Rebecca was now sailing easily, and the distance between the ships increased, and soon the wind increased so much that the upper foxes had to be removed. Another hour passed, and it was almost nightfall. The cruiser was at least five miles behind, still chasing the ship, hoping for something to happen that would delay the Rebecca. Darkness fell, but the ship continued on the same course until midnight, when the course was changed to south-south-west, which was continued until dawn. Thus, if something happened to the masts, “Rebecca” would be far from the route of the gunboat that continued her pursuit.At dawn, the ship was heading west-shadow-north, and the southeast trade wind drove it forward at a speed of fourteen knots per hour.
Negroes were taken from the corrals arranged on board in parts – one half for the ship, the other for the owner, whose representative would buy the goods in the United States or England and deliver them to Luanda on a mail steamer, and from there in small sloops to their destination, some sailors and crew members of the hijacked ship. They were glad to seize the opportunity to return to their homeland.
During loading, the doctor was engaged in separating blacks who did not look healthy, or those who received minor injuries during delivery to the deck, and sent them to an impromptu infirmary, built by fencing off part of the forecastle space. When healthy blacks arrived on board, the Spanish assistant placed them so that when they were all on board, everyone could lie on their side. Since no one knew how much of the blacks were men, they were all put together.The next morning the division was made. About four hundred women and girls were sent to the deck. A blank bulkhead was built across the ship, and other bunks were added. The women were then brought downstairs and a sufficient number of men were sent upstairs to help the carpenter build additional bunks. It is difficult to imagine more obedient ones: no violence was required, and although at times they did not understand what was required of them, after understanding, they immediately and with zeal did everything necessary.
Negroes were now sent on deck in groups of eight and seated around large flat dishes heaped with boiled rice, beans, and pork chopped into small pieces.The dishes were made from a portion of the flour and other barrels that had the top trimmed off, leaving the barrel riveted about four inches. Each negro was supplied with wooden spoons made for fun by the crew during the forty-day journey. The barrel rivets were sawed off eight inches, divided into one and a half inches wide, from which spoons were then carved with pocket knives. The spoon remained in the possession of the slave because it was tied with a rope tape to his neck. Since there was no free space on the deck for feeding all the Negroes at once, the interdeck space was washed out with dishes so that they all ate at the same time, three times a day. In suitable places, barrels of water were placed, with which the Negroes were generously supplied day and night. With the onset of darkness, they were sent to new premises: men – in the middle of the ship, women – in a place fenced off from men at the stern, in front of the infirmary. Looking through the hatches, the slaves resembled sardines in a jar – on the floor and bunks they lay as closely as possible.Large windsales provided fresh air, and open hatches provided adequate ventilation.
The next day a general meeting was called to check the lists for the parties of Negroes presented. Each trading post had its own special stamp: in the form of a letter or a geometric figure. Negroes were branded with a red-hot iron on their left shoulder a few days before loading by the owner or representative. The slaves were young men, no less than twelve to fourteen years old, but no more than thirty. Their total number was about one thousand two hundred people.
Then the captain selected about twenty strong men and put them in sacks that had holes made for the head and arms. These men, called “kamisas” (“shirts”), were required to scrape and clean the interdecks, etc. They were given a small portion of rum daily. The women were divided into groups, each of which was sent to the aft deck for an hour. The change of groups was carried out until nightfall. The men were confined to the upper deck between the cabin and the forecastle, sending as many groups as they could fit there at once.When they first went for a walk in the morning, each of them was dipped in a barrel of salt water and forced to run around until they were dry.
Despite the obvious health of the Negroes, three or four corpses were found among them every morning. They were carried out onto the deck by the arms and legs and unceremoniously, like empty bottles, were thrown overboard. From what did they die and always at night? The corrals knew that if the negro was not entertained and not forced to move, he would mock, sit with his chin to his knees and clasp his hands, and then soon die. Among civilized people, it is impossible to imagine that a person would hold his breath until death. Africans are believed to be capable of this. They had no opportunity to hide anything, let alone kill each other. The duties of the kamisas also included watching other blacks during the day, and when the kamisas found blacks sitting with their knees raised and their heads bowed, they lifted them up, forced them to run around the deck, gave them a small portion of rum and distracted them from the blues until they came back to normal.
The negroes took on board several small monkeys, which were a constant source of entertainment for them. Another and constant pastime of them was the study of each other’s heads. The ship went far from the coast, making fourteen knots per hour, and for some time there was no need to fear pursuit. The negroes seemed tired of the monotony of events, and small portions of grog were distributed among the men. They constantly sang native songs and danced. Any of them represented a new source of entertainment.A watchman was on duty at each hatch, ready to provide any assistance to the negroes in case of illness and to stop the invasion of the sailors. The throwing of the dead overboard did not seem to make any impression on the blacks, since, being away from home, they believed that after death they would return to Africa.
It is interesting to note the tribal differences between them. Tattoos were done infrequently, but the teeth were bent or sharpened in the most incredible shapes, generally sharpened like saw teeth, or cut in half.The nose, lips and ears had holes of different sizes, signs of distinction, apparently, were scars from numerous cuts on the skin of the arms, chest and legs, sometimes of irregular shapes with a claim to geometric shapes. Skin color ranged from black sheen to chocolate brown tones.
At the end of October, the Rebecca was rapidly approaching the Caribbean islands. Nautical charts were studied, and after a short meeting they found it safest to pass between the French islands of Martinique and Dominica. Thus, we chose a course between them at 15 ° latitude. One morning the mountains of each of the islands appeared at a distance of about twelve miles. Although not a single sail was noticed, but during the passage, although far from the coast, all the blacks were sent down, so that the ship could seem like an ordinary merchant ship. They held a course for about a hundred miles south of Puerto Rico, Santa Domingo and Haiti, until they reached the extreme western tip of Haiti. Almost halfway between Haiti and Jamaica, the observer spotted a steamer far to the west.Since its course was not yet clear, the sails were lowered. Half an hour later it turned out that the steamer was heading almost eastward so as to intersect with the ship, so its course was slightly changed. All blacks, as well as most of the white people, were sent down. It was advisable to move so far that the absence of the name on the nose of “Rebecca” was not noticed. The unfamiliar ship was sailing slowly, probably an English mail steamer from Kingston, calling at Haiti and Santa Domingo. The ship gradually traveled about five miles, and everyone breathed a sigh of relief when the ship disappeared from sight.The sails were set again, the blacks were sent to the deck and they were given additional biscuits as a token of a grateful sacrifice.
The Rebecca soon reached the area north of Jamaica, but it was a dangerous place to pass, Cape De Cruz, the southern tip of Cuba on the eastern flank. Now we were heading northwest. Ships from the United States come very close here, thus saving distance on the way to Trinidad, a famous port in the south of Cuba, from where mainly sugar and molasses are exported.Everyone knew that the area was patrolled by an American cruiser designed to intercept slave ships, and it would be inappropriate to arrange a match with him. Accordingly, the speed of the ship was regulated in such a way that it passed the dangerous area at night, at a distance of fifty miles.
The ship’s destination port was known – south-south-east from Puerto Principe in Cuba. There is a chain of six small islands, parallel and twenty-five to thirty miles from the island. The second island from the western tip is the largest, less than a mile wide and three miles long.It is home to dwarf mangroves eight feet high, some coconut trees, and a valuable source of fresh water. The island is coral in origin and rises only a few feet above sea level.
It was necessary for the ship to come to the island in the afternoon to disembark the negroes and free themselves of their cargo before dark. A bonfire at night would have attracted more attention than during the day, when one might have the impression that some kind of shrubbery was burning on the shore.The site was close to the line of regular passage of ships that were receding or approaching the southern coast of Cuba.
At dawn on November 3, 1859, the ship was only fifty miles from the island, moving in a gentle breeze at about eight miles per hour. At about ten o’clock in the morning, an American barque was seen several miles ahead, moving in the same direction. The ship did not approach the barge within the negotiation distance, since the captain in any case would have to visit the barge and talk for an hour or two.It was impossible to slow down, as it would attract attention. What to do? The captain summoned the carpenter, who, with the help of the crew, pulled two large barrels of water onto the deck. In each of the barrels, the bottom was knocked out, a rope was fixed around the rim, then the barrels were lowered behind the stern so that they were dragged with an open hole in the direction of the ship. As soon as the ropes were taut, the speed was reduced so that the bark would go quickly forward and for an hour it was impossible to see what was happening on board the ship.
In the middle of the day, a chain of islands appeared.The position of the desired island was calculated very accurately, but the barrels dampened the speed so that the ship had to reach the island later than expected. At noon, another measurement was made and the exact location of the island was established – the distance from it was about fifteen miles. As the ship approached him, a signal flag was raised at the top of the mainmast – a large white cloth with a red cross. For some time, there were no signs of the presence of a single living creature on the island. The ship was late, according to the most condescending estimates, by more than six weeks, and the Spaniard began to fear that the people waiting for the ship might lose all hopes of the success of its voyage and retire to the continent.Just at the time when the most gloomy predictions seemed to come true, two people appeared, running among the rare bushes to the water’s edge. They waved their hats and gestured frantically. In response, they heard a loud cry, they were recognized. The ship approached the island half a mile and dropped anchor at fourteen fathoms deep. Four boats were hurriedly lowered, and the disembarkation of the Negroes began. It took more than two hours to disembark them all, raising enough large sails to cover, and unloading food supplies.
Meanwhile, a carpenter was sent down to sink the ship. All combustible materials on board were collected in a forecastle between decks and in a cabin filled with oil, turpentine and paint. When the last member of the crew left the Rebecca, combustible materials were set on fire, and before the boats reached the shore, flames engulfed the ship from stem to stern. Soon the rigging burned out, and the masts, still held by heavy posts, collapsed one after another. Gradually the wreck of the ship sank, and in an hour there was nothing left on the surface of the sea that would indicate the death of “Rebecca”.
Once the blacks had been dropped off, they were driven far enough so that they could not be seen from passing ships, the sparse growth of mangroves giving them shelter. At nightfall, the sails were used to shelter the blacks from the dew that cooled after hot days. These shelters were removed before dawn so that they would not be noticed by passing ships. The Spaniards were very happy to be in a safe place, as they were calm about the upcoming events. Immediately after disembarking, a fishing sloop was sent to the continent with the news of its arrival.The island consisted of coral formations and was covered with a thin layer of earth and undersized grass. All around were mangrove bushes and a dozen coconut palms, stunted, stunted, but with a rich harvest of fruits, still green.
The negroes rejoiced at the landing and the abundance of food and water. Ships passed the island every day, but none of them came close enough to reveal its secret.
Before the departure of the sloop, there was a heated discussion by the sailors of the issue of payment.They wanted a salary before sending the blacks to the continent, and the Spaniards wanted everyone to share the risks, and pay at the end of the enterprise. An agreement was reached, and the Spaniards agreed to pay a salary to those who demanded it. Four days later the sloop departed, then two small schooners arrived with money for those who sought it. They were paid in Spanish doubloons. The blacks were moved to two schooners. They, previously huddled closely on the Rebecca, were now literally squeezed in the holds, since no one was allowed to appear on deck.The officers were divided, they were allowed to stay on deck in a confined space.
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An educated person is not fixated on himself, he is attentive, sees and feels another person, takes care not to cause him unnecessary inconvenience.
At the same time, a well-mannered person is not necessarily a highly moral person.Sometimes among educated people you can find both a swindler and a scoundrel, but more often among educated people people of high decency prevail.
Good breeding is sometimes associated with openness and tolerance, they sometimes combine, but the connection here is accidental. A well-bred samurai will stab a person in the same way as an ill-mannered bandit from the high road, only more carefully and with great ceremonies. Torquemada, the first Grand Inquisitor of Spain, was a very well-mannered man, but cruel and not open at all.A well-bred person can be a slave to caste, religious or anti-religious prejudices.
Education is often, but not necessarily, combined with education, just as education is not always accompanied by education.
Education is an individual and personal result of education, the quality of a person, which consists in the ability to independently solve problems, relying on mastered social experience.
But politeness is always included in upbringing: a well-mannered person will always be polite, although a polite person is not necessarily educated yet.
Real good breeding always presupposes inner discipline, self-control. A well-mannered person is positive, does not use conflict genes, shows syntony, behaves with restraint and dignity in conflict. A well-mannered person controls his emotions, never throws tantrums. In communicating with an equal, a well-mannered person does not interrupt, but is ready to listen to the interlocutor, avoids conflicts, uses synthons. He is in no hurry to voice a complaint when a request can be made.When giving orders, a well-mannered leader also prefers the form of a request.
Upbringing presupposes attentiveness, accuracy and targeting in expressive movements.
When a well-mannered person listens, his face is not frozen, not dead, but attentive, reflecting the state of the partner and in time expressing those emotions that serve the partner with support and prompt suggestion. If there is no need to express support and there is no need for prompt suggestions, the face of a well-mannered person is calm and neutral benevolent.
Education is a certain restraint in expressive movements. Too loud laughter, waving hands with educated people is not welcome. Another detail in which good manners are manifested in expressive movements is their subtlety.
The gestures are beautiful, not with the paw, not with the whole palm, but with living, playing fingers, each of which can talk separately. Surprise not by turning the whole body, but by one glance or a raised eyebrow. Subtlety, beauty, aesthetics of every movement are a trait of educated people.
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Essay on the topic: Educated person
Educated person.What does this concept mean? The explanatory dictionary defines the word “educated” as follows: “Notable for good upbringing, who knows how to behave well.”
At different times, people, of course, put different meanings into this concept, because “good” education was presented to people of different eras in different ways. After all, what was considered a “good” upbringing among the ancient Greeks or the Sumerians, in our time may turn out to be simply indecent!
But I tried to figure out what “good upbringing” and “good behavior” means these days, and here are the conclusions I came to.
A well-mannered person is never rude to anyone, even to enemies. He is always polite and friendly with everyone. Such a person will never offend either in word or deed. You will not hear an obscene word from a well-mannered person, and it is unlikely that he will utter a simple rude word in the presence of other people.
A person can be called educated if he opens the door in front of a woman walking behind him (by the way, in America a woman will consider such a person a rude person violating her rights, degrading her dignity with the assumption that she herself is not able to open the door!), If the man is the first greets the woman.And in the village, a well-mannered person is obliged to greet anyone he meets, even a stranger, in the city it is no longer necessary.
A person who knows how to behave culturally at the table is also considered educated. He must behave correctly and neatly in everyday life, be neat in his clothes and take care of his appearance.
Much is required from an educated person! But these requirements are not so difficult to fulfill if he received a good upbringing in childhood.
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People’s life is filled with problems. Some of them are solved, after which they lose their relevance, while others remain regardless of the era and time.The second group of problems can be safely attributed to the problem of education and upbringing. This issue is relevant to this day, so a lot of attention is paid to it. After all, good breeding is one of the important components of mutual understanding between people and the guarantee of their equal communication. But what does it mean to be, and who can be called a well-mannered person? To understand this, let’s try to give an example of a well-mannered person. At the same time, we will try to give arguments not only from life, but also from literature.After all, both the classics and modern writers in their works also touched on the topic of education.
An example of an educated person
As Belinsky said, upbringing is a great thing: it decides the fate of a person. And this is really so, because upbringing plays an important role in the fate of a person. Because of how much a person will be brought up, there will be a corresponding attitude towards him.
What kind of educated person is he? According to the dictionary, a well-mannered person knows how to behave in society.Just good manners are not enough to call a person well-mannered. Having given way or letting the lady go ahead, you will not become a well-mannered person, although these qualities are also signs of good manners. To be educated, you need to constantly improve, observe the established rules, and most importantly, respect others, their work, opinion, while showing mutual courtesy.
The subject of politeness was also touched upon by writers of different eras. So, an example of a well-mannered person from literature can be Andrei Bolkonsky, one of the heroes of the novel War and Peace.He was a noble and honest man who respected not only his own opinion, but also someone else’s. In the same way, Nikolai and Natasha Rostovs can be considered examples of educated people. But Anatol Kuragin is an example of bad manners. After all, without a twinge of conscience, he allows himself an affair with a girl who already had a boyfriend. He did not reckon with the feelings of Andrei Bolkonsky, showed disrespect to him, and because of his selfishness destroyed the happiness of young people. Kuragin is a proud person, ready to lie for the sake of momentary profit, and such qualities cannot be inherent in a well-mannered person.
Mitrofanushka from the work of Fonvizin The undergrowth is also a vivid example of both ignorance and bad manners. This person does not follow the rules of etiquette, does not even respect the mother, let alone other people. He does not know how to behave in society and cannot adapt to life.
But in the work of Platonov Yushka, the main character Yefim can be an example of a well-mannered person. Despite the villagers’ disrespect, their anger towards himself, he did not stoop to their level, but on the contrary, forgives them and shows mercy.This is how Yefim’s upbringing is manifested.
Based on the above, it becomes clear that a well-mannered person is one who is attentive to others, shows delicacy and tact, and respects others. Upbringing is a combination of education, moral qualities and spiritual culture that are inherent in a person, starting from his birth. The main thing is not to lose these invaluable qualities in the process of life.
A well-mannered person – an example from the literature
And what assessment would you give?
The importance of self-control
Life does not always follow the scenario that we draw in our imaginations.Sometimes it drives us into a dead end, causes stress, forces us to leave our comfort zone, but even then you should not lose your composure, blaming everything on circumstances.
What kind of person is called educated? Perhaps the one who, stepping on a cat in a dark corridor, calls it a cat. That is, good manners should not be a mask for you, with the help of which you try to get into the trust of others. They should become a norm, a habit, the only acceptable way of communication.
Even if you did not share something with someone, your opinions disagreed with someone else’s in the dialogue, you are faced with a complete reluctance to take your arguments into account, you should not lose control.In such situations, the best advisor is the voice of reason, as well as those learned earlier, which will help not to lead the situation into an even greater impasse.
The rules of a well-mannered person exclude the manifestation of ill will towards other people. We can say that you have a different point of view, but in no case get personal. It is enough to conclude that you are not on your way and disperse without going into further details.
Composition of the exam. Why does a person need a good upbringing? According to A.P. Chekhov
Composition of the Unified State Exam according to the text of A.P. Chekhov. Why does a person need a good upbringing?
“You often complained to me that you were” not understood! ” Original text
Why does a person need a good upbringing? This question worries A. Chekhov, the author of the text proposed for analysis. To answer this question, let us analyze the author’s reasoning. A. Chekhov in the text addresses his brother and writes to him that extreme bad manners are the only serious drawback of the addressee of the appeal.This drawback, according to the author, leads to the fact that society does not accept it. A. Chekhov writes: “In order to feel at ease in an intelligent environment, in order not to be a stranger among her and not to be burdened by her, you need to be educated in a certain way.” In other words, if a person violates the rules of behavior accepted in society, they begin to shun him, because with his bad manners he offends and offends others.
Continuing to reveal the problem, the author points out the consequence of the alienation from the educated society described in the first example – this is a painful feeling that they do not understand you.“You often complained to me that you were“ misunderstood! ” – the author writes at the beginning of the text, and in the second half of the analyzed passage notes that educated people “do not play on the strings of other people’s souls, so that in response they will sigh and nurse them. They don’t say: “They don’t understand me!” Thus, A. Chekhov leads us to the idea that the lack of upbringing leads to serious contradictions with the outside world. It not only deprives society of approval, but also makes you feel misunderstood. The position of the author is as follows: a person needs a good upbringing so as not to feel like a stranger in an intelligent society and not to feel misunderstanding on the part of others.I agree with the opinion of the author of the text. Society has its own unspoken rules that must be followed. Lack of upbringing creates a distance with people around you, which can be very painful for a person. Good breeding is a manifestation of respect for people and for the rules that they adhere to.
I would like to prove my opinion with an example from D. Fonvizin’s comedy “The Minor”. The hero of the work, Mitrofan, grew up as an extremely ill-mannered person, which manifested itself in everything: in his actions, speech, communication with other people.Due to his bad manners, no one from the environment liked Mitrofan, everyone preferred to avoid him, did not get pleasure from communication. Even his mother, who raised the hero to be cruel and spoiled, eventually realizes how terrible the child’s character is, which will never allow him to be part of an intelligent society.
A person needs a good upbringing in order not to be an outcast of society, but to feel like a full-fledged part of it.
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Show respect and courtesy
Respect in society must be earned and, most importantly, not lost in the future.What kind of person is called educated? Someone who is always ready to listen carefully to anyone who turns to him for advice, or in any case not to show obvious disdain. It can be difficult at times.
Everyone has situations when there is neither time nor desire to communicate with any particular person. At such moments, it is very important to deviate from the conversation tactfully so that the interlocutor does not have an unpleasant aftertaste on his soul.
Being able to follow your interests without offending others is a great art worthy of understanding and mastering it, because it greatly simplifies life and opens up many opportunities.
Do not humiliate yourself and do not impose yourself
You can also consider the opposite situation, when you need something, but do not want to communicate with you, for lack of all the same free time or banal craving for this. A well-mannered person is one who will not impose and put his own interests at the forefront. You can only offer your own society.
There is nothing shameful in asking others for a favor, but true tactlessness will extort it, reproach for indifference, and so on.In essence, blaming other people is tactlessness. In fact, such people blame others for what they themselves sin a lot.
If you try to achieve what you want with such methods, you can fall very low in the eyes of others, and then it will be very difficult to return a positive impression about yourself.
Who is called a well-mannered person
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“No one encourages a person as a kind word” – an old Russian proverb.
All people in the world feel the need for communication. One can speak about the modern culture of communication only if the speech “repertoire” includes communication manners that emphasize intelligence and good breeding.These include benevolence, responsiveness, tact, politeness. But not everyone remembers (or may not know) that a polite person should be not only at school or at work. You can only demand from others what you are able to give and give yourself. Unfortunately, very often this simple truth is forgotten, especially at home, in relations with close relatives. The ability to behave in a narrow circle is a person’s good manners. There is no doubt that a family member who observes the rules of good manners at home is almost immune from any kind of oversight in the environment of strangers, since he is used to watching himself and his behavior.It is not superfluous to add to this that a well-mannered and gallant person enjoys the love and respect of those close to him. Some people think that at home you can afford something that society will never allow. It is very important to understand to yourself that the observance of etiquette among the family is no less important and necessary than among friends and strangers. A harsh word thrown in the heat of anger hurts your loved ones. For the time being, relatives will try to treat the rudeness of a loved one with understanding, they will try to somehow justify him.But over time, non-observance of elementary etiquette in dealing with family members becomes intolerable, discord sets in in the family. In general, in relationships with loved ones, you must follow the same rules as in relationships with strangers. It happens that in the vocabulary of some family members, words such as “thank you”, “please” are missing. Many do not consider it necessary to load their speech with such expressions. They seem unnecessary and outdated to them. Count how many times a day you say words of gratitude to your loved ones? Eastern sages believe that politeness prolongs a person’s life, so do not forget to thank your parents and friends more often.When greeting, a polite person should not say through clenched teeth: “hello.” When we say hello, we greet the other person and actually wish him health. You should not frown gloomily and utter a greeting somewhere to the side or grumble under your breath. The one to whom the greeting is addressed should see your location. Remember to smile as you greet. They will also answer you with a smile. Some boys say to each other when they meet, instead of “hello”, “great” or hello. Of course, this form of greeting is acceptable, but this is not the most successful and beautiful greeting.
You can always pick up something else. When greeting someone, do not use unnecessary gestures. Girls should remember that only men should shake hands when they meet. For a girl, a slight nod of her head will be enough. When saying goodbye, you should not throw “goodbye” in the back of a departing acquaintance or friend. A polite person should definitely say goodbye. A polite person should be aware that a greeting or gratitude spoken in a dismissive or derisive tone can offend the person.It is quite enough to sincerely thank for the service rendered. It should not be forgotten that a kind word, spoken at the right time, prolongs life.
Giving compliments is a special art, because not everyone can naturally and subtly speak beautiful and pleasant words to others. Everyone deserves good words, and not only for beautiful clothes. You can praise for quick wits, for the ability to provide support in time, for the ability. Try to say pleasant things not only when the situation requires, but also when admiration flares up inside you: these will be the most successful compliments, the most sincere praise.It has long been known that laughter prolongs life, but it is also known that a joke in a conversation is permissible only if it has a subtle meaning, is light and does not offend anyone present. We live among people, and we are one of all living beings have a unique opportunity to speak, listen, share impressions, argue, express our thoughts, joke, that is, communicate with each other using speech. It’s great, and at the same time difficult. At least two people always participate in a conversation – the speaker and the listener.They often change roles. For each of them, there are certain rules that help maintain interest in the conversation. Do not be afraid to start the conversation first – usually such an initiative is not punishable, however, provided that you have something to say and the moment is right for the conversation. With the interlocutor, you need to behave politely, benevolently and attentively. The topic of the conversation should be chosen interesting for everyone involved in the conversation. It is indecent to talk about yourself all the time. This is usually done by narcissistic people who believe that no one can tell different stories more vividly and colorfully except me.During a conversation, a true interest in the person with whom you communicate is shown, and if this is not done, then what is the communication for then?
When we talk, we often help to make our speech more expressive with our hands, postures, facial expressions. Waving your arms and grimacing all the time will make the conversation more tiring than effective. Pulling on the sleeve of the interlocutor, fiddling with a button on his clothes, attracting attention, waving his arms widely is not at all recommended.It is worth getting rid of such gestures. Sometimes it is better to be silent than to say too much. For example, if you know that the word you uttered can offend the interlocutor. You should remain silent even when you have been entrusted with a secret. Keeping someone else’s secret is a very responsible and difficult business. Secret information just begs out, you constantly think about it and every time you are afraid to blabber. And you can’t blabber, otherwise you will lose your friend’s trust and devotion. When talking, you need not only to be able to force others to listen to yourself, but also to be able to listen yourself.It is important not only to substitute your ears at the right time, but also to express your attention to the speaker with all your appearance; look at him, and not around, nod his head, encourage him from time to time, ask leading questions. The listener must not only perceive the information, but also understand the information, feelings and experiences of the interlocutor.
Now I will read the proverbs related to our today’s topic:
– The word is not a sparrow: if it flies out, you won’t catch it.
– The word smites more than an arrow.
– A good silence is better than a thin grunt.
– it is better not to tell than to retell.
– spoke from day to evening, but there was nothing to listen to.
– for bad words, the head will fly off.
A well-mannered person is a person who uses expressions, intonation and tone in a conversation that are conducive to benevolent communication. Also, gestures, gait, facial expressions play an important role. You should be moderately modest, but not squeezed and secretive. When giving a word, you need to be responsible for him, keep your promises, because you need not only to make a good impression, but also to consolidate it, to maintain it for a long time.
The qualities of a well-mannered person help him to communicate tactfully with others. There are specific instructions and tips, thanks to which you can get a fairly clear idea of the framework of etiquette, being in which, you will be known as a pleasant interlocutor and a welcome guest in any company.
Well-mannered person – composition – Compositions in Russian
Good manners in tandem with politeness attract much more than a beautiful appearance or status in society.Therefore, many will want to know what it really means to be a raised person. Neither etiquette lessons nor self-development trainings will turn an ignoramus into an aristocrat. Noble behavior comes from the heart.
The correct attitude and attitude towards people are formed in childhood. Over time, good manners become a habit, reflected in every area of an adult’s life. Although it is difficult to remain gallant in modern society, it is possible.
What does it mean to be educated as a person in practice
Harmony between people is achieved when everyone cares about the interests of each other.Unfortunately, selfishness has become an integral part of society, so many have forgotten what it means to be a raised person. For the era of the “I” generation, it has become the norm to show off, filling all the space with oneself. Politeness, tact and respect have become “fossils.” But it is these qualities that are most often striking when meeting. However, do not confuse good manners with shyness and shyness.
This is what a well-mannered person should be like in reality:
- immediately come to the rescue;
- to adequately respond to force majeure circumstances;
- be a law-abiding citizen;
- be able to maintain a conversation when needed;
- respect the opinion of others, even if it contradicts your own;
- do not interrupt the interlocutor;
- to speak to the point, but succinctly;
- avoid offensive speech, inappropriate jokes;
- admit guilt, mistakes.
A well-mannered person is known for punctuality, a responsible attitude to work and stress resistance. At the same time, he knows how to control himself, restrain emotions.
In relationships with others, a well-mannered person remains sincere until the very end. Lies, intrigues and hypocrisy are alien to him.
Since the self-esteem of such individuals is at the highest level, they will never:
- cry for pity;
- to be humiliated;
- worry about trifles;
- Ask for help in an inappropriate manner.
They have enough moral strength to rise from the dust and stand on their feet. Self-sufficiency will help educated people find their calling in life, without resorting to meanness and low deeds. They are not born with such a perception of the world, they learn it.
An essay on the topic What kind of person is called cultural
Culture is the basis of any society. It brings people together. Culture is basically sublime art. There are cultural monuments in every city.
These are paintings, paintings, tapestries, monuments, memorials.Education is also a part of culture, because how can a cultured person be without proper education? All this is guarded by people as one of the values of the people.
But what kind of person is called cultured? What qualities should be inherent in him?
The most basic culture is the culture of speech and behavior. Therefore,
is a cultured person who follows the rules of etiquette, politely and competently communicates with the people who make up his environment. Behavior is an important factor by which appropriate conclusions can be drawn about any person.
A cultured person, being in a society, especially an unfamiliar one, behaves decently and calmly, avoids conflict situations. Such a person should be responsive, benevolent, delicate and tactful, because one component is not enough to show his culture. A cultured person by his behavior should set an example for others. Of course, not every person can be called
But nothing prevents every person from becoming such. Indeed, in addition to respect from others, there is respect for oneself.But a cultured person should also be able to stand up for himself.
People should contribute to the preservation and spread of culture, and to be called a cultured person should be desirable and prestigious.
A cultured person is a well-mannered, educated and decent person who can help in an unstable situation and who is always in control of his speech. The more cultured people in a society, the more it flourishes and stands out from others.
Being a cultured person is very good.A cultured person never speaks rude and bad words, does not offend or offend others. Such a person always behaves decently and modestly, does not go beyond what is supposed to be.
That is why cultured people have many friends, because it is pleasant to be with them.
Culture is everything that man has created: books, paintings, monuments. And a cultured person is obliged to protect all this, because these are memorials of the history of our Motherland, which tell about its past and determine the future.To be a cultured and educated person is an honor, you need to strive to become one.
How to become a well-mannered person at any age
Parents are responsible for fostering good behavior in their children. However, millions grew up in dysfunctional families. Therefore, they wonder how to become a well-mannered person.
Psychologists recommend starting the process of self-improvement with simple things:
- to delve into the circumstances of other people and understand their feelings, actions, thoughts;
- adhere to generally accepted norms of behavior;
- control your emotions;
- Do not re-educate others.
The ability to conduct a constructive conversation is an important personality trait of a well-bred person. Comprehensive development people delight others with their knowledge in different spheres of life.
To do this, they are constantly interested in:
- current events;
- social issues;
- the natural world;
The manner of speaking also plays an important role in relationships with others. Before you say or do something, it is worth reflecting on the consequences – good or bad. You need to take it as a rule: take into account the feelings of strangers.
Self-control will help a well-mannered person not to be irritated when others are wrong.
Controlling your emotions is not easy, so you need to practice. It is necessary to learn to say “no” to yourself in what is dear to your heart.
Although good manners are not in vogue these days, they still have a “magical” effect on those around you. With their politeness and tact, those who know what it means to be a well-mannered person easily win the favor of strangers. Therefore, they are guaranteed leadership in modern society.
Improving the social life of a person
Thanks to the rules of etiquette, you can get an idea of how to behave so that there are no awkward situations and conflicts with other individuals.In general terms, they imply respect and benevolence when communicating. In this case, the social position or the position of the interlocutor should not play a significant role. Everyone is equally worthy to be treated properly.
We complain about the insanity of our children’s lives, but when do they have time to be with them? Empty time once lived in the afternoon, was not saturated with tasks or activities in the summer, when the school was not an agency; perhaps later we learned about these equations, but who knows that in one of those times, devoid of time, distance and direction, the rotation of Montale’s poetry began.
Getting married pale and absorbed next to the scorching wall of the garden, listening among prunes and brushwood pops from blackbirds, snakes snakes 7. Science is distinguished by the peculiarity of leaving, in its own way, directly and exclusively to the thing itself, the first and last word. In this objectivity, asking, defining, obeying the agency itself takes place, but only thanks to a person can the essence be studied 8.
Within the framework of humanism, it is believed that every human creation is initially pure.Etiquette helps you not to lose this inner light, maintain it in yourself and take care of the well-being of others.
Man is a creature for whom life in a society of his own kind is considered optimal. We are all closely related. By insulting someone, you are defaming yourself. This will never be done by a person whose upbringing and manners will not allow such a fall.
Only in reality, a person should live in amazement, and on the basis of this surprise the question arises why, and therefore, in order to begin a survey and an ordered foundation, that is, to lay the foundations of scientific research.Critical thinking about education when using scientific research methods cannot be considered a science and not have a “service” relationship to science. School should not make a person functional for the world, but should teach him to think, where thought is understood not as a theoretical position, but as the development of critical thinking, which can only destroy the old, consolidated.
By maintaining goodwill relations with other people, a person provides his own peace. By respecting others, you also put yourself high.Those who assert themselves through rudeness and humiliation tend to have low self-esteem and do not consider themselves important.
Conversely, individuals who show respect for those who are nearby feel quite confident and comfortable in society. The choice is yours.
It is not surprising that in this reformist wave, which wants to change everything without telling us in the name of the fact that pedagogy is a great correspondence course. The area that deals with the original cannot be considered secondary, therefore education cannot be subordinated to the scientific principle, because it is more primary, it is philosophical.
However, the pagan, in his pedagogy as a philosophical science, helps us to clarify this idea. Philosophy always creates sciences in which it seems that a person is alienated from himself, separate sciences that are autonomous, which have just been born, ask their mother to live a free and independent life. Because specific sciences do not arise from each other, as it might seem, but everything from philosophy, because it is always a reflection that transcends a specific science, which makes a difference in the object of it.
How often do people nowadays think about the norms of behavior and who a well-mannered person is? Despite the fact that progress has gone far ahead and human life has become extremely diverse, some people do not know the basic norms of behavior. Few people think today that a person is painted by his words and deeds, and not by clothes and jewelry.
“The concept of spirit as development marks the reabsorption of pedagogy in philosophy, the opposite concept of spirit as a substance presupposes degeneration and separation of pedagogy from philosophy” 9.Knowing and feeling that education is not a science also involves redefining academic work. Teachers, teachers, cannot be considered “applied” because their task is not only to apply rules or procedures. Education, understood in its most dense meaning, is associated with the ability to penetrate into the other, which, of course, exceeds the only rational ability and can proceed from the intimate availability of consciousness to meet with another.
Of course, the best praise for a person is good reviews of others.It’s nice to be aware of yourself as a well-mannered person in the opinion of friends and relatives. But many still adhere to a different point of view, which is that a person automatically becomes educated and cultured when receiving a diploma.
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Well-mannered person.What does this concept mean? The explanatory dictionary defines the word “educated” as follows: “Notable for good upbringing, who knows how to behave well.”
At different times, people, of course, put different meanings into this concept, because people of different eras saw “good” education in different ways. After all, what was considered a “good” upbringing among the ancient Greeks or the Sumerians, in our time may turn out to be simply indecent!
But I tried to figure out what “good upbringing” and “good behavior” means these days, and here are the conclusions I came to.
A well-mannered person is never rude to anyone, not even to his enemies. He is always polite and friendly with everyone. Such a person will never offend either in word or deed. You will not hear an obscene word from a well-mannered person, and it is unlikely that he will utter a simple rude word in the presence of other people.
A person can be called well-mannered if he opens the door in front of a woman walking behind him (by the way, in America a woman will consider such a person a rude person violating her rights, degrading her dignity with the assumption that she herself is not able to open the door!), If the man is the first to greet With a woman.And in the village, a well-mannered person is obliged to greet anyone he meets, even a stranger, in the city it is no longer necessary. Material from the site //iEssay.ru
A person who knows how to behave culturally at the table is also considered educated. He must behave correctly and neatly in everyday life, be neat in his clothes and take care of his appearance.
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Who is a well-mannered person and how to become oneA well-mannered person is not the one who says “Hello” to you and cleans up the tray at McDonald’s.If you were taught to translate old women across the road and were taken to a music school, then you still cannot wear this honorary title. Raised is a title to be earned. And not only your parents are responsible for it, but you yourself.
Respects the person and does not paint
Upbringing is, first of all, respect for the human person. Of course, such a person will not allow himself to joke humiliatingly in the presence of others and will be polite even with the very last boor (but exactly until the moment when the boor goes beyond what is permitted).A well-mannered person will be soft and tactful, he will not try to show himself from the first seconds, fill all the space with himself and his ego and arrange a presentation of his capabilities. Do you think that this is bad, that you need to present yourself in order to be noticed? You are partly right, but good manners are always striking. It’s not as loud as bragging, not as bulky as insolence, but just as noticeable. Do not confuse good manners with modesty and silence, our hero is not like that at all. He speaks little, but always on business, does not interrupt, is polite, communicates witty, but without insults, and tries to keep in touch with everyone.Remember such people at various parties and parties (or what do you, young people, call it?). Often a calm dude is found to whom everyone else’s attention is drawn. But he does not recite Laertius’ verses, does not clap his feet, standing on his hands, does not joke about poop.
Doesn’t yell over trifles
If suddenly something went wrong, a well-mannered person will not panic, squeal like a pig in a slaughterhouse and annoy people with his whining. He will behave like a white officer before being shot – calm and proud.They just told him in time that the hysterical man looks very disgusting. And worrying about trifles like a lost umbrella is generally stupid. You can’t help trouble with shrieks and nerves, you just pissed off those around you.
Compassionate and fair not only to cats
A well-bred person has an increased content of compassion and justice in his blood. If you were brought up normally, then they probably talked about mutual assistance and help to your neighbor. There is no need to remember the wolf laws and shout that there is no order on this planet, everyone is betraying and throwing each other.These are extremes. But to come to the rescue of a friend who needs to transport a coffin, help with money or help in a drunken showdown is sacred. Calling an ambulance for a pensioner who was knocked down by a stroke, past whom dozens of legs have passed, is not heroism, once it was considered in the order of things. Supporting a mentally broken friend is a common thing. Silently helping to bring the stroller into the trolleybus is also an act from the same series.
This is not nobility, what we are talking about, this is a manifestation of upbringing. Nobody asks you to sell an apartment in favor of the poor, you are not Count Tolstoy, and in itself such an act is on the verge of moronism and heroism.And you are asked to do simple things. So don’t be compassionate to cats and dogs alone.
Pays off debts
A well-mannered person knows how to respect. Not just anyone, but only those who deserve it. He does not envy them, he sincerely admires them and is sincerely grateful for their help or support. And that is why a well-mannered person always pays debts and tries to do it on time. This is gratitude for help and respect for someone else’s property.
Self-sufficiency and self-esteem
And a little more about respect.Needless to say, a well-mannered person will not belittle himself, will not arouse sympathy, compassion, hint that help would be useful to him? Well, this is somehow indecent and humiliating, don’t you think? All this from a sense of self-respect. It’s just that upbringing does not allow using such low, so dirty and so vile methods.
Therefore, a well-mannered person tries to find some kind of talent in himself and develop it to the maximum. So self-sufficiency is largely a consequence of good breeding.
Does not accept a lie
A person brought up does not accept or approve of a lie. Why should he lie, it’s ugly, indecent and stupid. Even small lies on trifles are unacceptable. As we said, a well-mannered person with a sense of his own dignity is doing well, so he does not like it when people hang noodles on his ears. And educated people just behave in accordance with the biblical principle “Do not do what you yourself would not want.” Therefore, they do not show themselves and do not splurge, do not pretend that they are interested in empty rubbish like cars or binary options just to keep the conversation going.
The culture of behavior is above all
A well-mannered person does not have to understand culture and distinguish Monet from Manet. But he must have an internal culture. It is better not to know who Gluck is, but at the same time to live in cleanliness than to quote Derzhavin and at the same time live in a pigsty, walk around untidy and dirty, with uncut nails. He does not get drunk to a swine state, guided by the excuse “why not”, he drinks when there is an opportunity. It is a culture of behavior that is transmitted to both the culture of relationships and the way of life.A well-mannered person, when meeting a girl, will not make jokes about outstanding charms, he will be as romantic and polite as possible. Chekhov called it “the ability to refine your sexual instinct.” Perhaps he changes partners like gloves, but does not treat women as a means of self-gratification on two legs.
About good breeding. D. S. Likhachev :: Good advice to students :: We study :: School of Co-creation
You can get a good upbringing not only in your family or at school, but also … at yourself.
You just need to know what real upbringing is.
I do not presume to give “recipes” for good manners, as I do not consider myself exemplarily well-mannered at all. But I would like to share some thoughts with the readers.
I am convinced, for example, that real good breeding is manifested first of all at home, in my family, in relations with my relatives.
If a man on the street lets an unfamiliar woman pass ahead of him (even on a bus!) And even opens the door for her, and at home does not help a tired wife wash the dishes, he is an ill-mannered person.
If he is polite with his acquaintances, but gets annoyed with his family on every occasion, he is an ill-mannered person.
If he does not take into account the character, psychology, habits and desires of his loved ones, he is an ill-mannered person. If, already in adulthood, he takes the help of his parents for granted and does not notice that they themselves already need help, he is an ill-mannered person.
If he loudly turns on the radio and TV or just talks loudly when someone is preparing lessons or reading at home (even if it is his little children), he is an ill-mannered person and will never educate his children.
If he likes to mock (joke) over his wife or children, not sparing their pride, especially in front of strangers, then here he is (excuse me!) Is simply stupid.
A well-mannered person is one who wants and knows how to reckon with others, this is the one to whom his own politeness is not only familiar and easy, but also pleasant. This is the one who is equally polite with the elder and younger years and by position.
A well-mannered person in all respects does not behave “loudly”, saves the time of others (“Accuracy is the courtesy of kings” – says the saying), strictly fulfills promises made to others, does not put on airs, does not “turn up his nose” and is always the same – at home, at school, at the institute, at work, in the store and on the bus.
The reader has probably noticed that I am addressing mainly the man, the head of the family. This is because a woman really needs to give way … not only at the door.
But an intelligent woman will easily understand what exactly needs to be done so that, always and with gratitude accepting from a man the right given to her by nature, as little as possible force a man to yield to her primacy. And this is much more difficult! That is why nature took care that women in general (I am not talking about exceptions) were endowed with a greater sense of tact and greater natural politeness than men …
There are many books about “good manners”.These books explain how to behave in society, at a party and at home, in the theater, at work, with seniors and juniors, how to speak without offending your hearing, and how to dress without offending the eyesight of others. But people, unfortunately, draw little from these books. This happens, I think, because books on good manners rarely explain why good manners are needed. It seems: having good manners is false, boring, unnecessary. A man with good manners can really cover up bad deeds.
Yes, good manners can be very outward, but in general, good manners are created by the experience of many generations and mark the centuries-old desire of people to be better, to live more conveniently and more beautifully.
What’s the matter? What is the foundation of good manners leadership? Is this a simple collection of rules, “recipes” of behavior, instructions that are difficult to remember everything? At the heart of all good manners is concern-care so that a person does not interfere with a person, so that everyone would feel good together. We must be able not to interfere with each other. Therefore, there is no need to make noise. The noise will not close your ears – this is hardly possible in all cases. For example, at the table while eating. Therefore, there is no need to chomp, no need to loudly put a fork on a plate, noisily suck in soup, speak loudly at dinner or talk with a full mouth so that the neighbors do not have fears.And you don’t have to put your elbows on the table – again, so as not to disturb your neighbor. It is necessary to be neatly dressed because this reflects respect for others – for guests, for hosts or just for passers-by: you should not be disgusted to look at you. Do not bore your neighbors with continuous jokes, witticisms and anecdotes, especially those that have already been told by someone to your listeners. This puts the audience in an awkward position. Try not only to entertain others yourself, but also let others tell you something.Manners, clothes, gait, all behavior should be restrained and … beautiful. For any beauty does not tire. She is “social”. And in so-called good manners there is always a deep meaning. Do not think that good manners are only manners, that is, something superficial. By your behavior, you bring out your essence. You need to cultivate in yourself not so much manners, but what is expressed in manners, a respectful attitude towards the world: towards society, towards nature, towards animals and birds, towards plants, towards the beauty of the area, towards the past of the places where you live, etc.It is necessary not to memorize hundreds of rules, but to remember one thing – the need to respect others. And if you have this and a little more resourcefulness, then the manners themselves will come to you, or, better to say, the memory of the rules of good behavior, the desire and the ability to apply them, will come.
Essay on the theme “A well-bred person”
Who is a well-mannered person? A well-mannered person is one to whom his own politeness is not only familiar and easy, but also pleasant. A well-mannered person not and which will pour, but the one who will not notice how the other did it.I completely agree with these thoughts. They push me to think about who should be involved in the upbringing of the younger generation.
Parents are engaged in raising children from early childhood. It seems to me that a person’s behavior can be used to determine how he was brought up in a family, what moral values he has. Upbringing, most of all, turns out to be at home, because the behavior of some people in society differs from ordinary, and often not for the better.In my opinion, good manners, like intelligence, can be developed by yourself, you just need to know what it is. We should treat each other equally precisely because everyone is equal before God. There is no better or worse.
We all have freedom, which our great-grandfathers won for a very long time, and the main property of upbringing is to properly dispose of it: not to belittle the freedom of other people relative to ourselves. After all, in order to be educated, you do not need to memorize hundreds of rules, but remember one thing: if you treat your neighbor without respect, then you are an ill-mannered person.
In life, an example of a well-mannered, intelligent person for me is my mother, who tries not to cause inconvenience to anyone, in every possible way to avoid conflicts, spares my pride. She is polite, respectful with everyone: with old people and with children.
In the literature, speaking about intelligence, it is impossible not to recall G. Skovoroda, M. Gogol and many other Ukrainian writers who, in addition to writing, have been engaged in charity and treatment all their lives, without making a difference between the lower class and the aristocracy.Most of the Ukrainian artists, being the foremost people of their time, fought all their lives for the equality of people, the abolition of serfdom and the return of respect to an angry, humiliated and insulted people.
Good manners are not only good manners, it is a social concept, namely, “respect for the world, for society, for nature. A well-mannered person is a person who observes all the norms of morality and behavior in society, a person who respects the interests of others as his own
.Neatness, politeness, kindness, honesty and knowledge of etiquette should become the faithful companions of this person. A well-mannered person cannot be selfish and greedy. Feeling tact should be an integral part of her life. In order to be educated, you need to improve every day. And at the same time, be able to maintain these skills throughout life.
How to know that you are a polite person
Most people recognize good manners and rudeness in other people, but we may not see it in ourselves.Sometimes emotions take over, or we may have bad habits that we have not paid attention to for many years.
Have you ever wondered if people around you perceive you as a person of good etiquette? Do you want to be sure that you and your children have the best manners?
Being polite isn’t difficult if you know the basics; if you haven’t done it in the past, it will take some work, but in the end, good manners will come naturally to you.Etiquette can be learned and mastered by anyone, from the smallest child to the oldest adult.
What it means to be good
What, then, does it mean to be polite? This means that the person is kind and sincere, with a commitment to be considerate and kind towards others. This requires genuine respect for others in social, business and family situations.
Here are a few things to look out for:
- A polite person demonstrates self-confidence.This character trait usually manifests itself in their demeanor and ingenuity in both social and business situations. When you meet such a mannered person, you will be amazed at his skill and ability to navigate in circumstances, familiar or uncomfortable. Remember that it is not necessary for you to become proud and unpleasant in order to learn to be confident in what you stand up for and in your abilities; rather, people are attracted by the strength held back by humility and kindness.
- When a person is polite, he is considerate of others.Her sensitivity to the plight or hardships of others makes her not only notice, but also do her best to meet their needs. Good children always recognize that their behavior reflects their upbringing, and as a result, they are thoughtful and polite representatives of their family when they are with others.
- A polite person is consciously aware of the rights of others; he is respectful of his associations, recognizing differences based on age, culture or status, but does not make them key.In any situation, he shows due respect and has equal respect for old and young.
- When you meet someone with impeccable manners, you will most likely find that they are a very practical problem solver with supernatural common sense of style. This is a person who knows when to remain silent and when to speak on business. She can maintain relationships through her dedication to decency, and she is always a loyal assistant who gives wise advice. You should never worry about this person being snobbish or gossiping with others.
- A well-mannered person uses tact, values honesty, and understands the power of words and actions. Since he does this, he will tend to be slow to react and act in a targeted manner rather than react in most situations. He thinks carefully before speaking or acting. As etiquette develops, don’t let your prejudices and opinions lead you into vain and corrupting conversations. Have and keep your convictions, but choose the battle.
- Flexibility is another character trait for people with good manners.Even if this person is traditional, he or she understands that some necessary adjustments and modifications must be made in a culturally sensitive manner.
- Someone who knows etiquette handles awkward situations with grace and poise. The world is full of people who have never learned proper manners or allowed their tactless etiquette to turn into long-term bad habits. Understanding this and dealing with it is important for anyone who does not want to let others force themselves to react negatively.
How are you?
As you evaluate your manners, remember that they can be learned and even mastered at any age. While it’s true that when taught as a child, manners become the fundamental building blocks for good habits, relationships, work ethics, learning and growth, take heart and know it’s never too late to improve your manners.
It is also important to remember that fostering good manners is not a limiting factor requiring stoic or unnatural behavior.On the contrary, developing good manners is a great way to enhance your unique personality traits and style. A shy person helps his etiquette overcome his fear of interacting with others. If you are someone who likes to disagree, good manners can help you be pleasant and pleasant even when discussing a sensitive topic.
Perhaps one of the most important benefits of cultivating good manners is evident in the family and home. When you have good manners, your respectful, considerate, tactful, practical, and flexible behavior will go a long way in rewarding those close to you and strengthening the bond of love and respect when you are with the people who know and love you the most….
Edited by Debbie Maine
12 habits of etiquette that we do not realize are crucial for a well-mannered person
The word “etiquette” seems so old-fashioned. Most of us probably think that it faded into oblivion along with the gentlemen who used to take off their hats to women, but in fact it still exists. The fact is that the rules have changed, but we still have to follow them so as not to feel embarrassed.
Bright Side believes that all polite people want to know and follow the rules of etiquette, especially when some of them are not so obvious.
12. Public Toilets
Polite people know that we must wash our hands after using the toilet. But there are other rules:
- Do not try to open the door of a closed stall. The door could open and there could be a person. If this happens, both of you will feel embarrassed.
- Men are advised to keep their distance and skip urinals.
- If you need to reapply makeup, do not occupy the mirror next to the hand dryer. You will keep people who have washed their hands waiting.
11. Hold the cup correctly.
Surprisingly, a cup of tea and coffee needs to be held differently.
When holding a cup of tea, you never put your index finger in the pen. Instead, your index finger should touch your thumb through the handle, as if you were pinching something, and your middle finger should support it by fitting under the handle.
The correct way to hold a cup of coffee is completely different: you insert your index finger into the handle and keep your thumb on the top of the handle. The other 3 fingers – middle, index and little fingers – are tucked into the palm.
10. If you need to blow your nose
Etiquette experts recommend blowing your nose very quickly and quietly enough that people won’t notice. If you feel it will be loud, it is best to leave the public area and do so when you are all alone.
The strictest rules apply to blowing your nose during dinner. Don’t do this at the dinner table, even if you are very close to your family or friends. Go to the bathroom, blow your nose, wash your hands and come back.
Real ladies and gentlemen do not use paper handkerchiefs, they prefer fabric handkerchiefs. Of course, from the point of view of hygiene, this is not the best solution, but in this case all the rules of etiquette should be observed.
9.If food is stuck in the teeth
Do not use a toothpick at the table.If you notice food stuck in your teeth, try rinsing your mouth out (and make sure no one notices). Did not work out? Then go to the bathroom.
But if this happened to another person, and he does not know it, you can do the trick based on mirroring:
- Run your tongue over your teeth (keeping your mouth closed). Maybe then your tablemate will start repeating the same movement and understand what is happening.
But if the person does not understand your hints, do not be silent.Tell the person about their problem (again, make sure no one hears you).
8. If someone has their fly down
If you find that your fly is open in public places, go to the toilet and zip up your pants. If you cannot leave this public place (or room), you can simply turn to the wall so that no one can see you and zip up your fly.
If you notice someone’s open fly, experts say that you must inform the person about it.You just have to make sure no one hears you.
The Rule of the Flies also works for other clothing-related issues, such as if you spot a price tag.
7. If your colleague smells bad
As a rule, in large companies fairly strict hygiene rules are observed, and products or perfumes with a strong smell are prohibited.
But if your colleague doesn’t want to follow even the simplest rules, you must act like a good negotiator.Ask a coworker to listen to you and tell you that the conversation will be unpleasant, and only continue after the other person agrees to listen to you.
You will find a detailed conversation plan here.
6. If your food is too hot
If you suddenly find that your food is too hot, do not put it on a napkin. Also, you cannot breathe with your mouth wide open. Just drink some cold water or any other beverage. By the way, blowing on the plate is also prohibited.The only option is to sit down and wait until it cools down.
5. Your boss pays too much attention to you
Both men and women suffer from sexual harassment at work. If you are faced with this problem, do not be silent and do not be afraid. Tell your boss that you don’t like compliments or comments. If that doesn’t work, report it to your boss.
Harassment is sometimes difficult to recognize. Here’s an example:
- “You look great in this dress!” – it’s a compliment.
- “Your ass looks great in this dress!” – inappropriate behavior.
4. If you want to take a selfie
Yes, you must follow some etiquette to take a selfie. Always ask permission, even if you want to take a photo with a friend. Let them get ready for the photo: we all want to look good in our photos.
Do not take selfies in the bathroom, in extreme or dangerous situations, or in accidents. These are signs of bad manners, carelessness and even cruelty.
3. You need to split the bill with your friends and they ate more than you
While it would be unfair to ask someone to pay for all the lunch they didn’t eat, it can also be embarrassing to tell your friends about it. add up the approximate amount of your dinner, round it up and leave that amount. And remember, if you are spending time with friends, it might be better to just split the bill equally.
2. Determine the difference between a pregnant woman and an overweight woman
Offering a place to a pregnant woman is an important rule.But it’s really uncomfortable to confuse a pregnant woman with an overweight woman.
Here are some signs that may help you:
- For the most part, pregnant women do not wear high heels and their ankles are usually swollen.
- Consider their position. If the woman is holding onto her lower back or shifting weight from one leg to the other, she is probably pregnant and it is better to invite her to sit down.
If you are still unsure, it is recommended to stand up silently so that the woman can decide whether she wants to sit down or not.
1. If you rip your pants
Internet users give different advice: fasten with staples along the inside seam, cover the opening with a sweater wrapped around the waist, or call someone and ask for help.
The methods are so different, but there is one rule: you cannot tell anyone that you have torn your pants, and do not show your underwear to the public.
Have you ever found yourself in such situations? How did you deal with them?
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Nice synonyms | 32 synonyms for well-mannered
Polite – polite and attentive person.
Usually warm, approachable and easy-going in character.
Sufficient observance or conformity with generally accepted social customs; polite:
Doubtful or borderline member of this category:
Without rudeness or vulgarity; polite.
For or related to charity:
Polite and respectful; formally pleasant:
The definition of affable is a friendly person who is easy to talk to.
Does or is inclined to do good; kindly; charitableCharacterized by attentive and conscious thinking; intentionally
Differs in kindness and warm courtesy:
Promotes growth and development; pleasant:
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10 habits of extremely polite people
Sometimes we meet the person who stands out the best. He could be remarkably charismatic. She can think wonderful thoughts. And it is a wonderful gift to people – they cannot be ignored.
If you develop these qualities, you will not be just pretty; these qualities will make people want to work with you and do business with you.
This is why we love being around really polite people. (Not fake polite – sincere polite.) They make us feel comfortable. They make us feel respected and valued. We would like to be like them.
And we love doing business with them.
This is how amazingly polite people do it:
1.They always take a step forward.
You are at a party. A friend shows someone a few steps away and says, “Let me introduce you to Bob.” Bob sees you walking.
And he is standing there, waiting for you to approach him with some strange forceful movement.
Remarkably polite people, no matter how great their perceived status, take a step forward, smile, tilt their heads down a little (a sign of respect in any culture), and act as if it were them and not you.
(When I met Mark Cuban, that’s exactly what he did. He heard that I wanted to meet him and immediately walked across the room – where I was waiting to see if everything was okay – to say hello. Fact I remember how gracious he was, and told you everything you need to know about the impression he made.)
In short, polite people will never notice you; instead, they always make you feel great.
2. They continue to use the name you used to introduce themselves.
You are at an event. You introduce yourself to me as Jonathan. We are talking. In a few minutes, I’ll call you John. Or Johnny. Or Jack. Or J-man.
Maybe your friends call you J-man, but we’re not friends (yet) and you definitely haven’t given me permission to call you a full diminutive, let alone a full alias.
Very polite people wait to be asked to use a different, more familiar name. They call you what you asked – or later ask – to call because it is your right to be treated the way you want to be treated.
Anything less would be uncivilized.
3. They do not touch each other unless touched first.
(Handshakes are of course excluded)
Polite people wait for the other person to establish rules for non-sexual touching.
While I know it sounds like no one will ever hug or pat on the shoulder or forearm because no one can go first, don’t worry. Huggers hug. Patters pat.Slapping slaps. Here’s what they do.
Surprisingly polite people go even further: they never pat, squeeze or spank (in a good sense of the word), even if they are stroked, squeezed or spanked. Of course, they hug back, but they don’t reciprocate other touches.
Why? Some people don’t even realize they are touching you, but they definitely notice when you, , touch to , it makes them feel uncomfortable, and discomfort is the last thing polite people want others to feel.
4. They never say they know more than they should.
Some people share on social media all the time. And maybe you see from time to time what they were doing.
But polite people don’t talk about it. They talk about sports, they talk about the weather, they talk about The Walking Dead is a metaphor for life in corporate America, but they only talk about personal things that the other person actually reveals in person.
It may seem that the person wants everyone to know about a personal subject, but in reality this is rare.Therefore, if his social media broadcasts were not specifically addressed to you, always wait.
5. They never ignore elephants.
An acquaintance’s mother died a few weeks ago. You see it and you are not sure if it is worth raising this issue.
Wonderfully polite people always bring this up. Everything is simple in them, for example: “I was sorry to hear about your mother. I thought about you and I hope that you are doing well.”
Inconvenient? Absolutely not. You expressed your condolences (which is what you should) and now you both can move on: your friend no longer wonders if and when you could mention it, and you no longer wonder if you should.
When it comes to relationships, the best elephant is a dead elephant.
6. They never gossip – and they don’t listen to gossip.
It’s hard to resist the internal scoop. Figuring out the reasons behind someone’s decisions, the motives behind someone’s actions, the intricacies of someone’s hidden plans – not to mention whether Liam is actually dating Jeannette from the marketing department – these conversations are hard to resist.
Surprisingly polite people know that gossip about other people makes you wonder what they say about and .In fact, when someone starts talking about someone else, polite people apologize and walk away. They don’t worry about losing the respect of the gossips; everyone who wants to gossip doesn’t respect other people.
If you want to share your thoughts and feelings, speak openly about your thoughts or feelings – then you are not gossiping, you are sincere. This is what polite people do. But at the same time …
7. They never say to share the great glory of themselves.
How to find out? If you talk about something just because you really enjoy sharing it and the other person has nowhere to add value, you just pat yourself on the back.
When very polite people want to talk about themselves, they ask for advice – but not modest boasting like, “I noticed that you keep your car clean; which wax would you recommend for your Porsche? ”
Ask a question that shows that you truly value the other person’s experience or knowledge.The person will feel good because you demonstrate unconditionally that you trust his or her opinion; you actually get input that you can use. A win-win.
8. They never give their opinion.
We all know a thing or two. Funny things. Great things.
Just make sure you share these things in the right settings. If you are a mentor, please share. If you are a coach or leader, share. If you’re the guy who just got on the Paleo diet, don’t tell us what to order until we ask.
Surprisingly polite people know that what works for them may not be right for others — and even if it’s right, it’s not up to them to decide who it is for you.
Like most things in life, good advice is all it takes to choose the right place, and polite people know that the right place will always be after you are asked.
They do not judge the person they are talking to. They don’t judge other people. They do not condemn other cultures, countries, or anything else.
Why? Remarkably polite people understand that they are also imperfect.
9. They are masters of the art of social jujitsu.
You meet someone, talk for 30 minutes and leave thinking, “Wow, we just had a great conversation. She is great”.
Of course, when you think about it later, you realize that you haven’t learned anything about the other person.
Wonderfully polite people are masters of social jiu-jitsu, an ancient art that makes you talk about yourself without even knowing it.The SJs are fascinated with every step of your career, every journey of personal transformation, every clever maneuver you make on your way to the top of the social ladder …
They find you fascinating – and it gives you the opportunity to find yourself charming. (Everyone loves this permission.)
Social Jiu Jitsu is easy. Just ask the right questions. Stay open and leave room for description and introspection. Ask how, why, or who.
Once you know a little about someone, ask how she did it.Or why she did it. Or what she liked about it, or what she learned, or what you should do if you are in a similar situation.
And don’t think that you are manipulating, because you are not. Showing genuine interest in people is not manipulative. It’s fun for both you and them. They can talk about what they are passionate about and you can enjoy their enthusiasm, excitement and passion.
And if that’s not enough, think of it this way: no one gets too much respect.Asking others about yourself will show that you respect them.
Respect mother of politeness.
10. They never stop being polite.
They don’t just turn on the charm when they first meet. They don’t use it and lose it.
Remarkably polite people continue to be polite: partly because they don’t know any other way, but also because they know is , it can’t be otherwise.
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The civilian observes such decency in speech and manner as to avoid rudeness; Someone who is polite (literally polished ) observes more than necessary decency, submitting to all graceful, well-groomed and thoughtful in communication in a sophisticated society. A man can be polite without caring about others, simply because self-respect prohibits him from being rude; but one who is polite at least to some extent cares about the opinions of others, and if is polite in the highest and true sense that becomes predominant, he cares about the comfort and happiness of others in the world.little things. Civilian is a colder and more distant word than polite ; polite is fuller and richer, often deals with more important issues and is used only in a good sense of the word. Courtly offers what befits a royal court, and is used with outward grace and dignity without reference to a motivating feeling; like, courteous manner of an ambassador. Genteel refers to external elegance, which can be showy and superficial, and thus gives way to the word polite or polite . Urbane refers to good-natured politeness capable of giving others a sense of lightness and joy. Polished refers to the external elegance of speech and manner, regardless of spirit or purpose; like, gentleman polished or scoundrel polished ; cultural refers to the real and highly developed mind and soul, of which external manifestation is the smallest part. Applicant denotes an inclination to please or favor beyond what is required courtesy .
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10 things that polite people do and do not (i.e.e. How to be polite)
Politeness (noun): Respectful and considerate towards other people.
Synonyms: politeness, politeness, respect, reverence, manners, good manners, chivalry, gallantry, nobility, education, grace, tact, tact, attentiveness, attentiveness, attentiveness, prudence, diplomacy.
In our insane and often narcissistic existence of the 21st – centuries, it is easy to think that good old manners and politeness are a thing of the past.
The notions of courtesy and considerate behavior have been overlooked in a world where everything seems to be centered on “me” and the pursuit of the top.
Polite people seem to be becoming an endangered species!
Yet, oddly enough, we still tend to judge people by how polite (or not) they are to us.
An encounter in which we feel we have been rude or impolite can irritate us for a while.
It can even affect our mood and how we deal with other situations during the day or week.
The fact that this experience resonates so deeply suggests that “soft” social skills such as politeness are in fact a fundamental human need.
And it turns out they are …
This is all rooted in human evolution.
There is a good reason why these rules of social interaction have evolved over the countless millennia of human existence.
They create a cooperative, cohesive social group and contribute to the survival of the species.
All cultures, no matter how distant and different from ours, have manners determined by their individual traditions. The rules may vary, but there will be a strict code of conduct.
That says a lot about how important these values should be to sustaining society, doesn’t it?
So the fact is, if you agree with the concept of “manners” on a superficial level, you will be judged by them, and you will be judged others in the same way.
Whether you like it or not, our social skills, or lack of them, are a big part of who we are and how others see us.
Different touches for different people.
While we are talking about judgment, one caveat about making assumptions and labeling a person’s behavior as rude or impolite …
Do not automatically assume that in these globally interconnected times, others have the same cultural norms as you do.
What you think is polite may confuse, upset, or even offend others.
Here’s a personal example: I teach English to native speakers of other languages who have spent their time in a multicultural class.
I have learned that our cultural obsession with the words “please”, “thank you” and “sorry” (often when we don’t mean it at all) is viewed by foreigners with opinions ranging from distrust to annoyance. …
Yet their refusal to use these “magic” words when speaking English is considered rude.
So, when it comes to intercultural exchange, it is polite not to apply our own polite criteria to people from different cultures.
Good manners ultimately boil down to showing mutual respect.
If you don’t respect others, keeping the door open for someone or memorizing names is just window dressing and doesn’t mean anything. You will still be considered impolite.
If you show respect for others, they are more likely to do the same in return.
Profile of a polite person
Learning good manners, attention to others and courtesy begins in the very first years of our development.
You may have admired other people who seem to exude politeness from their essence without much apparent effort.
Rest assured that it is not that easy. It is a lifelong learning pattern that is deeply ingrained.
Perhaps you feel that your manners can be improved by improving your health a little. Honestly, I think we could all remind us from time to time about how to behave the right way!
So let’s take a look at some of the things that polite people do and don’t do — in no particular order.
1. They do not judge others
So, I’ve mentioned the word “J” a couple of times in this article, but a polite person would never judge.
How many times have you made hasty judgments about the person or circumstances of a new acquaintance and had to quickly turn 180 degrees when you got to know him better?
It is much easier and kinder to refrain from the desire to judge in the first place.
2. They do not share personal information
A well-mannered person resists the human urge to share intimate details of his life, be it facts or simply problematic.
You will never hear them talk, for example, about how much they earn, and the details of their hemorrhoids will mercifully remain in their place – hidden out of sight!
3. They do not spread or listen to gossip
The ability to reveal some naughty information about a friend or work colleague is a sure way to become a part of “your” crowd.
And avid listening to the tales told by others means that you are on the inner path, satisfying the human need to belong …
But only for a short time, because no one trusts gossip.
Polite people are not interested in such bad behavior, and they always do not pay attention to gossip, no matter how intriguing fairy tales may be.
This makes them reliable allies. This is why they tend to keep their friends while others pay the price for gossip when friends leave.
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4. They do not impose their opinions on others
The screamers who constantly impose their often conflicting views on every conversation are never popular.
These opinions are delivered whether requested or not – usually not.
A sign of a polite and courteous person is to refrain from imposing your thoughts on others.
Yes, of course, if asked, they will share their views, but they will be open to different ideas and balanced discussion.
They will never insist that you change their way of thinking.
5. They do not close their eyes to important questions
Some people will do anything to avoid the awkwardness of talking to someone who has recently lost a loved one, whose relationship has just collapsed, or who has gone through some other personal trauma.
On the other hand, well-mannered people will find a way to raise this issue as soon as possible in order to avoid prolonging embarrassment or grief, as the unfortunate sufferer anxiously awaits for a sensitive issue or tragic event to be raised.
This is never easy to do, but it is much kinder to acknowledge the grief in the lives of our friends or colleagues than to ignore it. Polite people respect that.
6. Always express gratitude
Expressing sincere appreciation for a gesture, gift, or hospitality is at the top of the list of things polite people do.
You won’t find them throwing a one-liner in an email or text message “thank you”.
Nor will they make the assumption that their friend or relative simply “knows” that they had a good time or appreciated the gift because they muttered a few words about it.
No, a polite person will always take the time to write a few words on a postcard and send it in the old-fashioned way by regular mail. Or they will say thank you in some other meaningful way.
It actually takes a little time, but it is a much more heartfelt expression of sincere appreciation. Your product will surely rise in the eyes of the recipient!
7. They calm others
When faced with a potentially embarrassing moment, a polite person will always find a gentle and appropriate way to dispel any stiffness, shyness, or anxiety in others.
They will do their best to minimize any discomfort others feel for whatever reason.
It takes sensitivity to notice such a situation, and this is another common quality of being polite.
8. Attentive listeners
You won’t notice a polite person looking at their watch while you are talking to them, or worse, looking over your shoulder to see if someone more interesting or “helpful” has entered the room.
And you won’t see their eyes dim as they talk. How about accidentally checking their phone for social media updates while you’re on a call? Never!
Polite people know how to “actively listen.”
Not only do they show their full attention by maintaining constant eye contact, they also nod or smile and utter strange affirmative words to make sure the speaker is going to keep talking.
If they don’t care about the topic, you will never know, because they also know how to redirect the conversation with such subtlety that you won’t even notice!
9. They let you talk about themselves
A continuation of the active listening technique is the ability of a polite person to ask reasonable and relevant questions about you.
Let’s face it, this is usually our favorite topic.
If someone lets you talk for ages about your accomplishments or the ups and downs in your life and seems to be really interested, then that’s a great conversation, right?
Only when you bathe in the rays of joy from communicating with this super-nice person, you will realize that you know almost nothing about them while they heard the story of your life.
10. They won’t forget your name
This is an obvious question.We all know that addressing others by their first name (correct!) Is good manners.
Some of us blame our poor memory for not being able to do this, but truth be told, it’s not that hard to pay attention when they get to know each other.
You can also ask again if you didn’t quite understand the name the first time. Better than getting caught when you need to introduce this person to someone else, and you just have no idea.
You may have noticed that an invariably polite person will repeat your name to you during a conversation.
This is not an overuse of tactics as it can be annoying, but nevertheless a useful tool for etching a name into your memory.
The best in life is free.
There is a very apt Slovenian proverb like “politeness costs nothing, but gives a lot.”
While good manners are worthless, they can have a significant impact on how other people treat you.
In a business context, this also applies to the organization you represent, so politeness can be both professional and personal.
Not an outdated concept.
In these times of disagreement, politeness, politeness and all these other synonyms mentioned above are more important than ever.
I mentioned above how meeting a rude and impolite person can leave you with a bruise.